All of a sudden, my boss started being overly familiar with me, blurring the professional lines and calling whenever he wanted. He wouldn’t call me by name as he used to. He would call me dear, or Maame, or madam. He would send me messages and ask if I was free on weekends.
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I wasn’t comfortable and didn’t know what to expect from him. I tried my best to tell him in so many ways that I didn’t like his new way of doing things—his closeness especially—but he didn’t notice. He bought me lunch and insisted on dinner. I refused the dinner, saying, “I can’t go.” He asked if I was busy. I said, “I simply couldn’t go.”
The next day, I went to his office and respectfully laid down my worries to him. “I want things done professionally between us and don’t like this new way of doing things. You’re my boss. I listen to you. I obey every command. I try my best to hit my KPIs. I wish things would remain the way they are without any complications.”
He nodded and said sorry. From that day, things came back to normal, but anytime some favor is due me, he’ll do everything to give it to someone else. My name doesn’t appear on business trips anymore. I get no allowances because he won’t let me do things that would allow me to get them. Nothing extra. Just the bare minimum.
My superior resigned and his position was advertised. I applied because I have all the qualifications and am the one who has served the longest under the previous boss. No interview was organized, but a few days ago, one of my colleagues was announced as my new superior. My boss lobbied for the position to be given to this guy, who came here just two years ago.
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Now I know everything around here is getting personal. I’ve thought of resigning, but that’s a long-term option. I want to have a conversation with him. I want to let him know I know what he’s doing against me. I want to ask what I should do to be in his good books again. I’m only asking to be given what’s rightfully due me.
I’m wondering if this will not escalate the hatred he has for me. Do you think I should, or should I forget about it and simply resign when the opportunity comes?
—Barbs
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Talk things over with him? what’s even there to talk about? he’s obviously getting back at you for refusing his advances and i think he’s just being petty, it’s probably only a matter of time before things gets worse.
You should start looking for job elsewhere cos i don’t think things will end well with you over there unless you wanna give in to him, which isn’t wise at all, considering how he’s been acting after your polite refusal.
Your boss has a boss? Petition his boss over the promotion and copy him so it doesn’t look like you are going behind his back. Watch your back and be sure to do your work diligently. He will be forced to reconsider his hostility against you because he will definitely face a reprimand.
I read a couple of comments here, and they sound funny. First of all, the fact that the lady thinks she deserves the promotion because she worked longer than the guy is very funny. If the guy is doing his work well and is also qualified for it, what is the argument there to make? Did anyone promise her a promotion? So what is the beef about? Sometimes CEOs are even appointed outside the organization
Plus, you could see she was enjoying all the advantages when things were good between the 2 of them. Now that the tables have turned, she is saying she no longer gets the priorities.
I have so much to say, but many people think she is the one who is being ill-treated. So be it
It’s obvious your boss is acting petty because he was rejected . Don’t because of his new method to think he can do anyhow leave your job. Or maybe you have another option but if you don’t, put more effort for success where you are
Don’t be frighten, do your job well as you will always, go on your knees pray to God to give him what he deserves for
holding behind opportunities that are meant to be yours.
You will be glad you do that and thank me later.
any decision comes with consequences, just endure them and keep praying for God’s favour. u will get anything you deserve at the right time
What is your company policy on promotions of such nature? Is it permissible to lobby? If yes, then petition your overall boss and copy your boss. Explain why you think you deserve that position. Though it may not be prudent to do so. But you can give it a shot.
As concerning the ill treatment and disfavour, as long as you are doing your work well, ignore that immoral boss. There’s no need to talk to him about it. You did well to turn down his advances. Now live with the consequences. That’s all. Just do your job accordingly. Stop looking for favours.