I’m currently at a crossroads and genuinely don’t know what to do. I can either go after what I want and cause a scandal or I can let it go and be unhappy.

What I want is a woman who is my friend’s ex-girlfriend. Kofi and I were really close. I shared a room with him. That was before I left town. When I returned, I met Yaa. I admired her immediately. I asked Kofi about her and that was when I found out she was his girlfriend. Out of respect for him, I kept my distance from her.

Sometimes when they had problems, they came to me and I helped them resolve them. Try as they did to hold on to their love, life happened. They went their separate ways.

Recently, I ran into Yaa again. We had a long conversation. During our chat, I realised we both share a similar goal. Yaa mentioned that her mother has been encouraging her to conceive since she’s now gainfully employed but doesn’t have a serious man in her life to marry her yet. Her mother fears she might miss her biological window. Yaa seems to be considering the idea.

Interestingly, that’s something I’ve also been thinking about lately—having a child soon, even if marriage comes later. I told her that if not for her past relationship with Kofi and what our friends or society might say, I would have loved for us to have a child together.

“No matter what you do with your life, people will talk. Why should what they say matter?”

Her response suggests that she doesn’t care about public opinion, but I do.

However, the truth is I still admire Yaa. This is why I feel torn. If Yaa ends up having my child, how would our friends and society view it? Would it be seen as a betrayal of friendship with Kofi? Would it ruin the bond we once shared?

I really need advice on this.

—Titan

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