I’m not a girl. I’m a woman. I’ve been here long enough to know who I want and what I don’t like in a man. I’ve met quite a few so I’ve learned a lot from them. My last relationship lasted for only four months. No sex, no kissing, nothing. When I saw what I didn’t like in him and we talked about it and he didn’t change, I walked out of the relationship.

Two months later, I met Cosmos. The way he approached me smelled like he wanted a relationship. A woman knows what a man wants no matter how deeply he shrouds his intentions. I assessed him that very day and told myself, “He ticks the boxes. I’ll like to know him better.”

The next day, Cosmos proposed. The whole thing went like like this;

Cosmos: “When I saw you yesterday, I knew I wanted to be with you. You have everything I want in a woman. I don’t know about you but I want something more than friendship.”

Me: “That’s fine. Let’s start and see how it goes.”

Cosmos: “That’s it? You’re my girlfriend?”

Me: “Yes. What do you expect?”

Cosmos: “So where do we start from?”

The next day he didn’t respond to my messages. My calls went unanswered. I thought something bad had happened to him. I knew only his office and not his house and it was a weekend so I didn’t know where to find him.

At late dawn the next day, he sent a long message saying, “It sounded so easy and I’m not comfortable with that. They say nothing good comes easy so I’m concerned. I’m sorry but I think there’s something wrong somewhere. Let’s leave it here.”

According to him, when a girl comes this easy, she’s probably coming with baggage. But what’s the point of making love difficult?

He got it all wrong but I don’t blame him. He was just being a man. What I want to put across is this; she makes it difficult, it ends. She makes it easy, it still can end in heartbreak. I make it easy so I’ll take my time to know you before deep commitment. Is that wrong?

— Erica

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