When I asked for her number, she responded; “My phone is spoilt so my number won’t do you any good.” The moment I heard this, I started losing interest. The last thing I wanted was to buy a woman I had just met a new phone. However, a part of me still wanted to know her. The only other option I had was to give her my number. However, neither of us had a pen. I had to resort to mentioning the number while she tried to memorize it. Before we parted ways I told her, “If you really want to get to know me, you will find a way to contact me.”

She called after two hours. “I took my colleague’s phone to call you,” she said. I believed her until later that evening when she called me again, and we spent over thirty minutes chatting on the phone. She was at home then so I knew she lied about the phone. When she showed me where she lived, I got to know that her place was not far from mine.

We were new to each other but we formed a habit of talking on the phone every day. I liked her and I made sure she knew it. One day we were talking when she said something about her boyfriend. I was surprised, “Boyfriend? You have a man?” She said yes. I didn’t believe her. Sometimes women say these things to test our ability to fight for their love. I was sure this was one of those things. It was easier to accept than to try and understand why a woman who has a boyfriend is entertaining another man.

The more we spoke, the more this boyfriend came up. Reluctantly, I came to accept that she indeed was in a committed relationship. The guy was too real to be made up.

Although I liked her, I have certain principles I live by. One of them is to never get involved with another man’s woman. So the moment a woman I am interested in tells me she has a boyfriend she takes seriously, I take a step back. No matter how strongly I feel about you, I won’t bother you again.

I believe that for two people to be in a committed relationship, they must have made a lot of sacrifices for each other. For this reason, I stopped calling Lorde. Between the two of us, I was the one who always called, so when I stopped calling, things started slowing down.

Four days ago, we were having a conversation when she said, “How come your hair is so black? What pomade do you use?” “All I use is coconut oil and shea butter,” I answered. She wanted to see the type of coconut oil I use. Her phone isn’t a smartphone so I couldn’t have sent her photos. I was willing to let the subject go until she suggested, “Why don’t I come to your place to see the oil?” It was a strange request but I agreed to it anyway.

We were talking on Friday evening when she asked me, “What are you doing tomorrow? I want to come over and have a look at the oil.” I said I would be home and gave her directions to my place.

On Saturday morning she sent me a text message, “I am hungry. What did you cook?” I didn’t cook anything that morning but I had some leftover rice from the previous night. “I have rice with stew,” I responded. She said she didn’t want rice. I wasn’t willing to spend money on somebody’s girlfriend so I ignored her.

I was about to take my bath when she texted that she was close to my end. I quickly rushed into the bathroom to finish before she would arrive but to my surprise, she found her way to my place without any help. I was in the bathroom when she called, “I am here. Which of the rooms are yours?” I directed her to my room and told her, “When you enter, wait for me. I will be with you as soon as I am done taking my bath.” She said okay.

My place is a single-room self-contained apartment. I knew I was expecting a visitor so I took my stuff to the bathroom so I would dress up there. To my utter dismay, this lady opened my bathroom door as soon as she entered the room. I had to turn around and put my hand on my joystick to avoid being completely exposed to her.

What I didn’t even understand about this whole thing was why she walked in on me naked while she was on the phone with her boyfriend. When I came out of the bathroom, she gave me her phone to speak to the guy. I knew she was trying to prove to her boyfriend that she was trustworthy. I was not pleased to be used that way but I took the phone. I could sense that her boyfriend was not comfortable with her behavior but he allowed it because he didn’t want to lose her.

“I bought banku to eat. Can you get me a bowl?” She asked after she ended the call. I went to the kitchen and gave her a bowl. I was wearing a singlet with a towel wrapped around my waist. As I moved, this girl was staring at my groin area. Even when she was eating, her eyes were fixed on me. I became aware of her all of a sudden. She looked like a temptress; beautiful, divinely curvy, and dressed seductively.

While I was trying to restrain myself from touching her, this girl jokingly asked if she could take my towel off to see my thing. I said no but she didn’t listen. She tried to remove the towel against my wishes. Luckily, I had an iron grip on it. With the way she was behaving, I ended up going against my principle about not getting involved with another man’s girlfriend. I made advances at her. She was responsive for a while before she pulled back, telling me she didn’t want to do anything. I also came to my senses when I remembered she had a man.

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To cease the fire threatening to consume me, I had to connect my laptop to the TV set so she could watch a movie while I got some work done on my phone. Thirty minutes into the movie, she received a call. I heard her directing whoever it was to my junction. The next thing I knew, this girl took her bag and stormed out of my room.

I called her thirty minutes later but her phone was off. In the evening, I called and it went through. “Where did you storm off to?” I asked. “It’s my business,” came her response. She was right. It was truly her business.

I Didn’t Tell Anybody Because I Enjoyed It

I don’t know the kind of person she is dating but she seems to have so much control over the guy. He would cook at his house in Kasoa and send it to her at Madina. The things she told me this guy does for her, I am sure it will break him if he finds out his girlfriend is cheating on him.

My readers here on this page, please help me understand this. What will make a lady who claims to be in a committed relationship want to see another man naked? Especially a man who has expressed romantic feelings for her. After she saw me in the bathroom she commented, “God has blessed you though. You are well-endowed.” Is this how people do friendships these days? They watch each other’s private parts and leave haunting comments?

–Kweku

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