I saw the story of the lady who is heartbroken because she broke up with her boyfriend two months ago and he is getting married. This story reminded me of something that happened to me two years ago. I used to think that people made these things up until I had my own experience in 2021.

The Covid-19 numbers had declined and universities were starting to reopen. My school was no exception. I was back in school before I knew it. I wanted to focus on my books so I made room for no distractions.

One day I went to my friend’s hostel to do group work for one of our courses. When I got there, my group members were chatting with four gentlemen. One of them was a friend of ours, but I didn’t know the other three. I stood there trying to send a silent reminder to my friends that we had to go. However, all parties were so engrossed in the conversation. I couldn’t do much but wait for them to finish talking.

While I was waiting for the girls, one of the men walked up to me. “Why have you isolated yourself from all of us?” He asked, “You look lonely. What’s your name?” Although I didn’t want to talk to him, I also didn’t want to be rude. So I engaged him.

We found out through our conversation that we came from the same hometown and had some shared interests. This made me warm up to him. We shared stories and experiences that the other could relate to. It made our talk lively and exciting. I kept thinking we had a special connection. It was not in a romantic way. I felt we were kindred spirits.

We kept talking until my friends wrapped up their conversation and called me to go do our group work. Before I left, the guy and I exchanged contacts. His name is George. He texted me after we parted company, and things picked up from there.

Shortly after we met, he came to me with a proposal. “You and I, we are one people. We come from the same place. We speak the same language. This means we will easily understand each other. So why don’t we start a relationship that will lead to marriage? I will marry you in the next six months if you say yes.” He was direct. I didn’t expect that so I wanted us to take a step back.

When we talked, I sensed desperation in him. It gave me the impression that something was amiss. He kept talking about our shared interests. “Come on, we will have a lot of fun together. We like the same things. We enjoy going to the same places. Don’t you feel how connected we are?” he said in an attempt to win my heart.

The thing is, I don’t date people I just met. So I only wanted him to be a friend. Besides, I didn’t find him sexually attractive. Of course, I couldn’t tell him that. I am a nice person. I politely told him, “I don’t want us to rush into anything. Let’s just take our time to get to know each other properly. We will see how things will unfold from there.” He agreed but he was also relentless.

He would come and see me on campus and spend time with me. Every time we spoke he would invite me over to his apartment. I always turned him down. “If you won’t come and visit me, then go on a date with me,” he would say. I didn’t want to lead him on too much so I always responded to his invitations with the line, “What’s the rush? Let’s take things slowly. If it happens, it happens.”

He seemed like a nice guy. He was always calm when we talked. And he behaved like a gentleman. It didn’t even make sense to me that I wasn’t attracted to him. There was just something about him that made me want to take my time to get to know him properly. I felt it would be easier to like him if we became good friends first. Until then, nothing about him would move me.

Two months into our friendship, I woke up one morning and saw George’s wedding videos on one of my friends’ status. I thought it was a joke. I checked his own WhatsApp status and the videos were there as well.

The minute it dawned on me what this guy was trying to do to me, I started laughing. I laughed so loudly that my roommates became concerned. One of them scrutinized my laughing face and asked, “Nana, are you okay?” I couldn’t answer her. I just kept laughing.

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I found it funny that a man who was getting married would relentlessly ask me to date him. He went as far as saying he would marry me within six months if I said yes to his proposal. So if I had rushed into anything with him, he would have made a fool out of me.

I wasn’t pained a bit by his actions. Rather, I felt relief that time revealed his true intentions. I was thankful that I didn’t force myself to be with him when I didn’t feel right about him. If not, I would have had my heart broken that early morning.

Call Your Ex And Ask Why It Didn’t Work Out Between You Two

Years have passed but I still don’t understand why he did what he did. I didn’t know him from anywhere. I never wronged him in any way either. So why would he want to do such a thing to me? Is it wickedness or what? I tried to get answers from him but he blocked me right after I asked him about his wedding videos.

Can the men here help me answer just one question? Why do men purposely string women along knowing very well that they are already committed to someone else? Don’t you stop to think about what your deception would do to the innocent person?

—Nana Akua

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