One of the things I enjoy doing is driving. So even though I have a good job with a fat pay cheque at one the biggest cocoa-buying companies in Ghana, I registered to be a Bolt driver. I usually drive on weekends when I have a lot of time on my hands. During one of my rides, I got a request from someone named Esther. I was five minutes away from her so I called to tell her I was on my way. When I finally made my way to pick her up I was stunned. My only thought was, “Wow! This girl is very skinny and beautiful.”
Her voice when she spoke was so seductive. I was smitten by her that very moment. “I am going to the Kumasi Sports Stadium,” she told me. “Which route do you want me to use?” I asked her. “Any route,” she shrugged. So I took the shortest route. A while into the journey she asked where she could get a car to Juaso. And I started to give her directions but thought better of it. I rather told her, “Call me when you finish with what you are going to do and I will come and pick you up and drop you off at the Juaso station.” She graciously accepted my offer as I dropped her off at her destination.
As soon as she called to tell me she was ready to go, I showed up where we were supposed to meet. I even parked my car before she came out to meet me. The truth is, I never left. I didn’t want to miss the opportunity to see her again so I lurked around while I waited for her to call. Because I was parked before she arrived, I saw her approaching me. And she truly is a beauty. I am a sucker for skinny girls so I completely fell in love with her that very day.
We started talking when I took off. “I am Edward,” I introduced myself. She smiled, “Okay. I am Esther.” “Yes, I know,” I responded. Then she made a joke about how Bolt drivers were making a lot of money. So I told her, “Really? I have no idea. I only work on weekends or when I am on leave.” She then sized me up and asked if the car belonged to me. I said yes but I could tell she didn’t believe me. I was neatly dressed so I didn’t understand why she doubted that I could own a 2012 model Toyota Corolla with a 2021 license plate.
Before she alighted I asked her if she had a boyfriend and she said no. The answer made me happy but I told her, “You girls, that’s what you say but we later find out that you have a boyfriend.” She assured me that she truly was single. I gathered from our conversation that she is a student nurse in a school in the central region. She is twenty-three, while I am thirty. I liked the age gap and felt our relationship would work perfectly. I had already planned our lives together by the time I got home.
Later in the evening, I called to check on her and she said she got home all right. “Thank you for everything you did for me today,” she said. “The pleasure is mine. Get some rest and let me call you tomorrow.” She said okay and we hung up. The next day I called her and she answered, “Hi, I am at work. Let me call you back.” I waited till evening but she didn’t return my call. I called her several times but she didn’t pick up. I sent her a message on WhatsApp and she replied. So that became our mode of communication. She wouldn’t answer phone calls but she would reply to my texts.
Our conversations were always dry. It was only “Good morning… How are you?” that we texted each other back and forth. Then one day she called me on a video call. She told me she was not feeling well. I wished her a speedy recovery and we spoke for about three minutes. While we were talking I heard a lady jokingly shout, “Esther is pregnant.” and they all laughed. I also joked, “Well, if she is pregnant then I am the one responsible.” Everyone laughed and the call disconnected. When I called back she didn’t answer.
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I am crazy about her so I always call her but she never answers my calls. I text her on WhatsApp but our conversations are too dry. I started giving up hope that she will ever be mine but my heart won’t let me. I thought deeply about what I could do to get her attention. And something whispered to me to go and find her on Facebook, so I did. I saw her photos and downloaded them and then sent them to her. Her only response was “Herh!” That was all she said. She didn’t appreciate my efforts to show her how much I cared about her. I was very sad. My feelings for her are real but she is playing “hide and seek” with my heart.
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I am just a man who is looking for love. Is that a crime? Ever since my last relationship ended, I haven’t found anyone worthy of my love until I met Esther. My ex even wants to come back but I don’t want her. I had to break up with her when she stole GHC17,000 from my bank account with my ATM card. She did it in bits so I didn’t notice it until I made a deposit and saw my account balance. That was the end. I stopped calling her. As I am writing this, she is calling me and apologizing for her actions. But it is Esther I want. Unfortunately, Esther won’t even pick up my calls and talk to me.
Maybe Esther wants nothing to do with me because she thinks I am merely a Bolt driver. She doesn’t know that driving is my hobby. What else can I do to get her attention? I haven’t stopped texting her. I call her every day but she never answers. I love skinny women, and Esther is the perfect type of skinny for me. I hope she sees this story and knows how much I love her.
– Edward
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I don’t think her rejection has anything to do with your being a bolt driver. After all she did entertain you even after the ride. You are being too intrusive. Inviting yourself into a conversation you were not part of was wrong. You messed it up even further by downloading her pictures on Facebook. What are you? A stalker? Trying to reach out to her will only make matters worse. Just let her be. This is not meant to be.
My brother kindly advise yourself and look elsewhere.
Move on .She sees you as a mere acquaintance not a friend. Love can not be forced. There are many big fishes in the sea why do you want only this big fish? . Stop trying to win a lost cause. Look else where.
Oh! My goodness! I don’t think you really wants her. If you really wanted her you could have gone to see her when she fell sick, that was a strike against you. One other thing it’s you who wants her but you’ve not made any move. Nothing is going to fall in your lap until you work at it. Invite her on a date and take her to a nice place and do that often. Buy her gifts if possible.You really need to do more than what you are doing right now. Pursue her and see how she feel about you, make things exciting. She sees you to be a boring person . Go to her work place and give her a ride home if you could have the time, do lunch with her, spice your friendship, compliment her, tell she is beautiful. Find out who was with when she called to tell you that she was sick and if possible have an outing with them and with time she will come around. You have to water the ground before you plant. All the best.
This will undoubtedly end in tears. Women know who they want. While he is chasing her, she is also chasing a guy who is ignoring her.
I used to act desperate for women I loved based on their appearance. I learnt the hard way. While this young man is acting this desperate to get the girl, she is busily insulting him.
The guy has already lost this battle. I can sense desperation. Falling in love with a woman because of her appearance without knowing her is one of the biggest mistakes a man will learn the hard way. The second mistake is trying to win this girl.
After mastering the psychology of women, most girls I speak with want to date me. And I also now keep playing. Recently, I was talking to this girl who placed third in GMB a few years back. She asked me to be her boyfriend, and I said no. She is still lurking, waiting for me to say yes. I have many more stories of a similar nature, but if you don’t believe in the first, you won’t believe in the rest.
They are not even dating yet, and he is already complaining. I don’t know how many words to use to convince this young man. He won’t even believe me that this relationship is not worth it. I only hope he learns later in life.
if you genuinely want to understand women, learn their psychology first. There is so much information on YouTube that will help you than you have ever learned in PhD degree at a university.
Best wishes to you out there.
Are you serious? You want her to figure it out that you want her to be your girlfriend? I didn’t read anywhere in your submission that you have proposed to her. So why not do that and see. Else forget it.
Don’t give up on her yet, bro. Girls are like that, and like to play hard on guys just to be certain of the gravity of your love for her. You know it’s her time to act as the boss since you are wanting her attention. Likewise, the time will come when she will be jealous and anxious about you alone after you have won over
She’s not playing hard to get, she’s not interested. Also, you’re kind of acting stalkerish; going to her page, downloading her pics and sending them to her because of what?
Please take a hint and leave her alone.
Really ?
There’s nothing depicting that she is rejecting you cos you are a Bolt driver. Don’t create inferiority complex phenomena for bolt drivers cos they dont have it.
Maybe you have a big ego or have a judgmental personality. I maybe wrong too anyway!
Aside that just be consistent.