I just want to put it out there that this is not how I envisioned things to go. I was just a girl who was in love with a man who adored me. As far as I was concerned, Thomas is the only man I was meant to love. We were happy and peaceful together. Sure, we had our ups and downs, but that’s all they were; ups and downs. What kind of relationship doesn’t have those? Thomas would buy a portion of the sea for me if I tell him that’s what I want. He is crazy about me like that. He has never told me, “Babe, I am sorry, I can’t do this for you.” He just does everything I want.
We have been together for two years now and he has only gotten better over time. He is not the type to go out with his friends and get drunk. He is not someone who entertains other women in a way that will disrespect me. He is not abusive toward me in any way. Dude doesn’t even raise his voice when we argue. He is just not a faulty boyfriend. And I truly was happy with him. I had my whole life planned around him and so did he. We were going to complete school, get a job, and then settle down. I envisioned myself growing old with him.
However, the perfect picture I painted of our future became distorted when I met Cain. I didn’t mean for it to happen but there was something so alluring about him that I couldn’t resist. He is in his thirties, and he is so handsome. He has a good job, and he is living his best life. He has this energy that just made me want to get to know him more. Through that, we got close. I thought it was safe to be close to him but soon enough, my feelings started acting up. I was still very much in love with Thomas but I started feeling something for Cain as well. I tried to kill it but it only intensified.
Cain didn’t know that I have a boyfriend, nor did my boyfriend know that I was talking to Cain. So I was the one with the ropes. When Cain told me, “I have fallen in love with you, and I am curious to know if there can be anything between us,” I couldn’t turn him away. I told him how I also felt about him, and we started dating. He never ceases to tell me how much he loves me. He showers me with gifts and takes me to nice places for dates. We have been together for a few months now and he didn’t suspect that I have another man. That’s because he is not possessive or controlling. Come to think of it, Thomas isn’t possessive either. Both my men love me very much and they give me the freedom to do whatever makes me happy.
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I have come to love Cain just as much as I love Thomas. They both make me very happy but I always feel guilty whenever I am with Thomas. I feel I am not being fair to him, and it eats me up. To add to that, I had an issue with my other man recently, and that one too is eating me up. What happened was that I was with Thomas when he called. I didn’t ignore the calls. I answered all his calls and spoke to him as best as I could. Thomas noticed it and asked, “Who is that person? I have seen that number calling you almost every time we are together.” I didn’t even know he had noticed the number until then. I couldn’t have told him the truth so I lied.
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After he bought the lie, I put my phone on flight mode, to avoid further problems. It was after I went home the next morning that I took my phone off flight mode. Cain called me that morning but I didn’t pick up. Then I called him in the afternoon and told him, “I am sorry I have not been in touch. I had to deal with an emergency.” “What kind of emergency?” he asked. “It was a family emergency, and I can’t talk about it because it’s a sensitive matter to my family.” I could tell that he didn’t believe me but I still held to my lies and did my best to make them believable.
Since then, he has been cold toward me. He doesn’t pick up my calls. He reads my texts but refuses to answer them. This should have come as a relief to me, right? I should be happy that the complication removed himself from the equation. However, it is not the case. I am bothered by his behaviour. I love him too much to lose him. I know it sounds messed up but I love Thomas too and I don’t want to lose him either. I never thought of myself as someone who could love two men at the same time until I found myself in these shoes. I am so confused right now. I don’t know what to do. Please, I am just a girl who feels lost and needs counsel. I implore you not to insult me. I just need help figuring my situation out.
—Ariana
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Choose one else you will lose them both. Thomas will do.
This is a risky game you’re playing. It’s wickedness. How will you feel if it was than to you.
Simply put, you are a cheat, selfish and greedy. Let both men go, you do not deserve either of them and they don’t deserve to be treated this way. Good men are always taken for granted. Leave them alone, Miss Cheaty.
Do you really think it is normal to love two men @ the same time in an amorous relationship? Even the bible says that no one can serve two masters @ the same time. You either will hate one and love the other with time. You are playing a dangerous game that you hardly understand yourself. You do not deserve the two of them @ all. Why do you disrespect Thomas in this manner? Has he done anything against you? If no, then why this sort of misbehaviour and indiscipline? Do you do things merely on emotions and impulse without clear purpose of intent? Clearly your action is total madness.
As a remedial measure, let Cain go out of the net before karma hacks you down. Should Thomas go out of your life due to your ingratitude and indiscipline, you might pay full time.
My dearest, you are playing with fire. Look sharp!!!!
Hi miss, if you could see this, then it’s totally understandable. It’s totally possible. Actually it’s not wrong. There are things that happen that u didn’t plan for. And not all of us have enough strong will to resist. You sure will feel guilt and fear and that’s your punishment so you should accept it. If you lose either of them or both, it’s also okay. You have already experienced what it feels like. If that’s what you like, you have more wisdom as to how to openly have two boyfriends or more. Do not mind people who insult you. They are hypocritical in nature
She asked for advice not judgement. You guys should be easy on her. She needs help. None of you here is perfect. Anyway my dear. Let go off Cain and concentrate on your Thomas. The remorse you feel whenever you think that you are not treating Thomas fairly tells you that you are doing something wrong. Cutt Cain off and build a future with Thomas.