I met Elvis in 2014. A mutual friend hooked us up. There was an instant connection between us when we started talking. So we made arrangements to meet in person. Elvis is a charming, educated and loving person. I was very pleased the day we first met. He was very understanding of certain issues that men in my life usually didn’t understand. He answered every question I asked him truthfully and as directly as possible. That’s something I always admire about him. Some men wouldn’t reveal everything about themselves right from the onset but he did. He told me, “I like you and I hope I would get to know you better but I can’t ask you to reveal yourself to me if I don’t reveal myself to you. So here’s something about me that you don’t know. I have a child with my ex-girlfriend. That’s not how I imagined my life but the relationship didn’t work out so we had to part ways.”

I was thankful he told me the truth right from the beginning. I had all the information I needed before I made the decision to accept him as my boyfriend. A while into our relationship I asked him, “Elvis, does your baby mama know about us?” He answered, “No, I haven’t told her yet. She can be a little extra sometimes so I want us to enjoy some moment of peace before she rocks our ship.” I trusted him so I didn’t try to rush him. One day we were together when his baby mama called. He didn’t answer the phone at first but she kept calling him so he answered. When he realized that there was nothing wrong with their child he told her, “I am busy right now, so I will call you later.”

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After that time he told her about me. According to him, the lady went wild. She even went about looking for me. She sent me warnings through Elvis and his friends. While all this was going on, Elvis’ family stood behind his baby mama. They said he had to marry her. When he explained that I am the woman he wanted to marry, they objected to it. His mother and his sister were the ones who openly displayed their disapproval of me. They did their best to tear us apart but Elvis and I went ahead and got married in 2016. His mother and his sister didn’t show up to the ceremony. I was concerned but told myself, “They will come around eventually.”

One month into our marriage, my husband and I  lost our jobs. He was devastated, but I understood that sometimes life happens so I was patient on behalf of both of us. By the time our rent expired, we still didn’t have jobs. Which meant we had to move out but to where? The option was to move to my in-law’s house. Elvis’ father is late so the house is occupied by his mother and siblings. He told me, “Babe, you know how my mother feels about you. If we move there, she will move heaven and earth to destroy our marriage.” I knew he was right but what else could we have done? We moved in there and just as we feared, it has been hell.

They treat Elvis’ baby mama like his wife and treat me like a home wrecker. The good thing is that my husband stood by me and protected me. So even though they are doing their best to separate us, it is not working. The one thing that has become a problem in our marriage, however, is my husband’s refusal to look for a job. There’s nothing I haven’t said to him in an attempt to encourage him to put himself back on the job market. But he has refused to listen to me. I was able to get a job immediately after we moved into their family house but the salary I earn is not enough to cater for us. We now have an adorable baby girl who has already started schooling.  All her expenses and our expenses at home are on me. I’m not able to give her the best because I don’t have enough, and it breaks my heart.

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Elvis has a piece of land he is trying to sell but we haven’t gotten any buyers yet. At this difficult point in our life, I am worried that even if he sells the land it won’t be enough to tend to our needs. So I decided to get a job outside the country to enable me to get enough money to send home, but Nana is making a mountain out of it. This is something I want to do for my family, especially my baby girl. He’s telling me that I should prepare for consequences, should I decide to her. I’m very unhappy in this marriage because I keep begging people for loans and buying food on credit.  This is not the life I planned for myself. I’ve become older than my age because of too much stress. I barely buy stuff for myself. I have even started having health issues because I think too much.

My parents are late so most times I don’t know who to discuss such issues with.  Kindly help me before I lose my sanity.

–Rosemond

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