My current boyfriend is not happy because I don’t post him. One thing I was fond of was posting the men I dated. They didn’t last. I dated Kwame for months; I posted him on my WhatsApp status, followed by love songs.

Anytime I am in love, all my status viewers get a hint. One thing I missed out on was that I was just showing people how unlucky I was in relationships. I will post a boy today and tomorrow we are no more a thing. I will post the next one I find and then a few months later, he’s gone. My friends had dated for years; they stuck with their partners even when they cheated on them and were toxic. However, my case was different. I was very quick to end relationships that I knew had any bad impact on my mental health. This led me to date a number of guys at different times because I kept seeing red flags.

My current boyfriend wants me to post him and show him to the world just like I did for others. Even when he posts his picture on Facebook and I react with a love emoji but don’t leave any comment, he gets upset. I have my reasons for not posting him on WhatsApp, and that’s because I don’t want people reading my life over there. I want to work on my relationship secretly and bring out the results, which is “marriage,” at the right time. But this new guy doesn’t seem to understand. He says he understands me, but he gets moody when that happens.

I am tired of posting relationships on my status that never ended at the altar. I want to wait for the marriage invitation before I post him. We have been dating for just a month, and he has never posted me nor commented on my posts yet wants me to be the one to put him on billboards.

Am I wrong for deciding to keep my relationship private until my wedding invitations are ready? Does he have a point? Is posting your partner really a do-or-die affair?