I had been friends with Poku for over four years. Then we lost touch all of a sudden. I kept wondering what became of him until we reconnected last year. He had relocated overseas. That was why he disappeared for a short period. I was so happy to hear from him again. Things picked up right where we left off with so much ease. This time around conversations went differently. We were talking about relationships; our past, present (if either of us were dating), and what we hoped for in our next relationship.

It didn’t take long before we agreed to be more than friends. It was one of those cases where love strikes in the most unexpected places. When we started talking again, I had no idea that things would progress this way but they did. He is a pilot so most of the time, he is unavailable but when he is free he makes up for it. There are times I understand him. Whereas other times, I am impatient with him. So we end up fighting over the fact that I want more of his time or his money.

Two months ago, his company flew a client to Nigeria, my state to be precise. So he hurriedly came to see me. There was not much time to spend but we were together regardless. That was all that mattered. In the heat of the moment, we ended up doing it. We went all the way. He asked if he could finish inside me and I said yes. Per my calculations, I was safe.

When he was leaving my place, he said he was heading to the airport. The next time I heard from him was after two months had passed. A lot happened in that period. First, I was worried sick that something must have happened to him. Then I found out that I was pregnant. This only spiked my anxiety.

One. I am not financially stable. Two. The man responsible for the pregnancy was nowhere to be found. My options were not particularly exciting in this situation. The less complicated way out of the situation was to get rid of the pregnancy. So that was what I did. I went through all of that alone while praying and hoping God would forgive me for what I did.

Two months have passed, and now Poku is back. He had an interesting story that was supposed to make his disappearance make sense. He said, “Babe, I’m sorry I have been missing in action. I lost my phone when I left your place. I couldn’t reach anyone until I went back home. I am now getting a new SIM card.” I found it hard to believe that this guy went for two whole months without talking to anyone in his life until he flew back to his country of residence. I didn’t want to argue with him so I told him, “I would like to end the call so I can process this information.”

Poku got angry that I didn’t accept his explanation wholeheartedly. “After all this time, I am reaching out to you but you are shutting me off. Don’t you know that I have a busy schedule? I have just landed in Italy as I am talking to you.” It didn’t end there. He said he was going through a lot. Each problem was worse than the other until he got to the part where he lost his mum. Nothing could top that one.

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While I sympathize with him, I also felt wronged after the way he disappeared the moment we had shuperu. It felt as if all our years of friendship and the relationship we started building since last year didn’t matter to him. It was as though he was faking us having a real connection just to have sex. If it’s shuperu he wanted, why did he have to come all the way to Nigeria to have it with me?

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Two days after he got in touch, I told him about the pregnancy and how I took care of it in his absence. He read my message but didn’t respond. This made me angry. So I sent him a lot of messages talking about how he had always had the upper hand in the relationship. Everything has always revolved around him. When he forgot my birthday and I complained, he reminded me that it was because he lost his job. When I didn’t hear from him for two months, I was sending emails to his company trying to reach him. My friends called me crazy but I didn’t mind. Yet he didn’t make any effort to contact me. Not even through social media. I let it all out, my anger and my frustration, I let him have it.

He responded by telling me that if he is all that I am accusing of then I should leave him. He said I was manipulative and a gaslighter among other things. I want to understand this. Am I wrong for calling him out on his BS? Should I have let it all go because of the timing? He did say he lost his mum. Was I wrong for letting him know what he did hurt me even though he is going through a lot?

—Yemi

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