There Is Something About Me That Draws In Married Women

Growing up, I could never tell if a woman was interested in me. I was good at fixing technological gadgets, so women often came to me to fix their faulty devices for them. A young newly wedded couple lived in my uncle’s house and I was friendly with them. Every time I went over to visit my uncle, the woman would come out and greet me.

One afternoon, she sent for me to come and reset their TV channels for her. Her husband had gone to work at that time. I was a seventeen-year-old high school student. This married lady had tied a cloth around her chest, the way our mothers do when they wake up in the morning to sweep. I was naive and didn’t think much of it.

She asked that I enter their single room to reset the channels and I did. The TV had no remote control, so I pressed the buttons on the TV to start auto search, but the channels didn’t show. So I had to do the manual search. By doing this, I kept my finger on the search button. To my surprise, I could see this lady’s reflection on the TV. She could also see me. And she made eye contact while she untied her cloth. I saw her nakedness. She was not wearing a bra. Only a pant. Everything else was uncovered.

I felt confused and uneasy. I could hear my heart beating very fast. Then she tied the cloth again. Before I realized it, she untied it again and then tied it back. It looked as if she was signaling me to make a move on her but I didn’t fully understand. Besides, she is a married woman so I was scared. Even though she was fair and beautiful, I was sweating and terrified.

She went out to bring something, and I took the opportunity to leave. She met me at her door and asked, “Where are you going? Did you finish my thing for me?” I shook my head and said, “No, but I have to go home and pick a pin to come and fix the antenna for you.” When I left, I didn’t return. I imagined the way I panicked and fled was the same way Joseph felt when he escaped Potiphar’s wife.

Later, I heard they relocated because her husband caught her in the act with a driver in their room one afternoon. It was then it fully dawned on me that the woman truly wanted to sleep with me.

Many years after that incident, I got married. I was quite young when I decided to settle down. It was all because I didn’t want to fornicate. After a few years, my wife and I had three children. And our marriage was unstable. I was doing my best to fix things but we were incompatible in so many ways.

While we were struggling to make things work, a chorister from my church who was around my age started getting close to me. This young woman was married and her husband was also in the choir. It was four years into their marriage and they didn’t have any kids.

One day after church, the man came to tell me; “My wife has asked me to tell you that something of hers is with you.” I was confused about the message. I asked him to explain things to me. And he said, “My wife had a dream about you concerning a child.” I asked for details but that was all the information he was willing to give me. I knew they were looking for fruit of the womb so I assumed they wanted me to pray for them. I was not a pastor yet but I was very on fire for God so I started interceding for them.

Out of nowhere, they started treating me nicely. They would call to check up on me. They offered me lifts to church and back home after church. All this while, my wife and I were separated and everyone in the church knew about it.

One evening after church, the lady came to church alone. After service, she came to find me and we talked and walked home. This went on for some time, and I started catching very minimal feelings for her. When I realised what I was getting myself into, I started avoiding her and her husband. They saw me one day and the man was very unhappy with me. He sounded angry when he asked me; “What’s going on with you? Why are you avoiding us?” I lied that I had been super busy taking care of some stuff.

After my divorce, I intentionally stayed out of their lives. I didn’t want to risk anything happening between me and this married lady. It’s been three years since I cut them off and they still haven’t given birth. Every time I pray, I continue to intercede for them. Sometimes I wish we were still friends so I would advise them on things to do and fertility centers to visit. However, it is better to be safe than sorry, so I am minding my business.

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Now, after my divorce, I got custody of my children. There was a married woman in our church who cared for us. She would gift us clothes, footwear, and non-perishable foods. I took her kind gesture as that of a woman who is trying to help out a single father. That was until I noticed that she barely looked into my eyes whenever we met at church. Nonetheless, she followed me everywhere on social media. She liked everything I posted and commented on them.

She is married so I didn’t read any meaning into her attention. After a while, my messages to her stopped going through. They always ticked once. My calls wouldn’t go through either. She stopped showing up at church with her kids so I became concerned. Her husband is not around for me to ask if everything was okay with his wife.

To open your mouth to say I love you, Is kind of weird

One day I called her with someone’s number and it went through. That was when I understood that she blocked me. I didn’t say anything. I just hung up when she picked up. What I don’t understand is why she blocked me. Did she do it because she expected me to reciprocate her kindness? Or she did it because she wanted something special from me that I didn’t notice?

I don’t like to take advantage of people’s kindness so I am hoping to repay her for everything she has done for me and the children. I have no intention of getting intimate with her, so that’s out of the question. I need advice on how to approach this issue without sending the wrong message. Also, now that I am a pastor and a single parent, I have a lot of women around me. I am not able to tell the difference between those who are just being kind and the ones who are expressing interest in me. I can’t even tell if a woman’s only interest is shuperu or if she wants a relationship. I am very clueless about these things, that’s why I need help so I don’t fall into temptation.