When he decided to travel abroad and start a life there, I told him in plain language that I couldn’t date a man who lived that far away. I’m not that young to be hanging on hopes that my boyfriend abroad would someday come and marry me. I asked for a breakup, and it was granted.
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It wasn’t an easy conversation. He talked me out of it and gave me hope. I even gave myself hope, but sometimes, we ought to face reality and let things go, so finally, we agreed by mutual consent and broke up.
A week later, he traveled abroad. He called when he got there. He started talking to me like everything was okay. I told him, “If I have to heal, I would have to do it without you in the picture. Your constant texting and video calls aren’t helping, so let’s cut it.”
We agreed on that too, only for me to find out a few days later that I was pregnant. It hit me so hard, but I decided quickly that I wasn’t going to keep it. I’m not ready to give birth, and I’m not ready to do it for someone I’m not married to. The best thing for me is to let it go, but my question is: should I tell him that I’m pregnant by him?
I know his answer would definitely be, “Let it go. I can’t have a child,” but that’s not the reason I want to inform him. And I’m not going to tell him because I need financial assistance or anything. I’m just wondering if it’s a must for him to know since he had a role to play in everything.
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I don’t need his opinion or judgment on anything, but he’s the one responsible, and in my mind, I feel like he ought to know so he will add it to the things that happened while we were dating. Is it that important? Or should I simply let it slip and live my life the way I want, without him and without his opinion?
—Eno
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Let him know. For all you may know this is a sign you guys are meant to be. Not all long distance relationship end in bitter way yours could have been different. Stop assuming that he will tell you to get rid of it because assumption never gets you anywhere. You can get rid of it but if only you don’t live to regret it. And are you telling me that every guy you come into contact sexually which leads to pregnancy and deos not end up marrying you will lead you to get rid of it then you will end up getting rid of all the children in your womb?.
Please keep the baby! If your mother had done same you wouldn’t be here. Take full responsibility for your promiscuos life and do no harm to YOUR baby. That child shall be a blessing to you. You can’t be having sex and killing souls in the name of you’re not ready.
I will advise you to keep the pregnancy and avoid deliberate sin, you don’t know what the future holds.
What if that’s the only baby God planned for you to have in life
I don’t understand if you have something against your boyfriend that you’re not telling us about. First you force a breakup over his objections as soon as you find out he’s going abroad. Then you rebuff his attempts to keep in contact as if the two of you are involved in a blood feud. Now finally, you want to kill his child without even telling him about it.
Why are you so unendingly negative? The abroad thing works out for some people and fails for others, the same as any relationship, even the ones where you see each other every day. A friend of mine just got married to her abroad boyfriend a few months ago, he came back after two years to marry her. He’s gone back and they’re already processing her papers for her to join him within the year.
What guarantee do you have that you’ll be married before he comes back for you? And even if you get married, would you be happy? What if the new guy is a cheat or perpetually financially challenged or his family members hate you and make your life a misery?
Why don’t you give this guy and your baby whom even the heavens seem to be rooting for a chance?