The way my girlfriend treats other people makes me want to leave her. I’ve talked about it with other people in my circle and what they say is, “As far as she treats you well, what do you have to fear?” Life is not about only me. Is about other people too. If today she’s treating strangers this way, who knows where else she may take it?

We went out and met this waitress who served us exceptionally well. She was virtually at our beck and call all night. When we were leaving. I gave her a tip. When I asked my girlfriend to get up and let’s leave, she asked, “What about the change? Ain’t you going to collect it?”

When I told her it was a tip, she followed the waitress in the pub and took the money from her. I was so embarrassed I asked her not to do that again. She screamed, “Why do you pay her for doing her job? That’s what you guys do and become poor in life.”

Since that day, anytime when we stepped out, she would talk to waitresses anyhow. When they are too friendly, she talks down on them. She tells me they are doing nwhiwhɛnim. When they are not friendly, she would scream at them and question their competence. One evening, she had to report one of these waitresses to their manager for a bad service.

She tries to make everyone’s job difficult whenever we go out. She would take the receipt and go through it one after the other while questioning the waitress, “Why is this costing this much? This small drink we took? Are you sure you’ve not added your chobo on top?”

She tells me she’s protecting my resources but that’s not how I see it. When it comes to her, she wants more. When little goes to someone else, she complains. That’s not how I was raised but she thinks I love these girls that’s why I try to make them feel fine.

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Not only in restaurants alone. She would point at strangers and make mean comments about them. You know, we all are not on the same level but she doesn’t see it that way. I’m weighing my options. Talking to her hasn’t yielded any results. She thinks she’s right and I’m wrong. Should I go one with her just the way she is?

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