When I met Amanda, she was a walking-dead, as lifeless as any human can get. David, her boyfriend of six years had ended their relationship. He opted out of the relationship for the sophisticated daughter of his manager. 

Amanda had their future laid out. They would get married, have their kids, and live happily ever after. Now he was gone, leaving her with tears and shattered dreams. That didn’t stop her from loving him. Through the heartbreak, she was still hoping that one day, David would do the right thing by returning back to her. While she waited for the return of David, I pursued her up and down trying to win her over. She was a beautiful girl. How broken she was about the breakup spoke to just how genuinely she loved and I wanted that kind of love myself. I knew I could make her forget him. I knew if I tried harder, her mind would change and say yes to me. 

It wasn’t easy to get her to see things my way. She never called me until I called. It took me a year to get a call from her but when she did, it was worth the wait. I remember how happy I was the day I saw her call on my phone. “She had never called me so why is she calling now?” When I picked up she said, “I called to check up on you.” For her to call and check up on me gave me hope that finally, I was making inroads on her heart. Finally, Reality had dawned on her that David wasn’t coming back. She called because she had decided to pick up the pieces and move on with them. I was glad she thought of me when she thought of moving on. 

I asked Amanda for a date on her birthday. After a little hesitation, she agreed. When I saw her that night, I could swear she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I proposed to her knowing this would be the first of many until she agreed. To my utmost surprise, she said yes. No second-guessing, no “Give me time to think about it.” Just, yes.

Our relationship had been pure bliss and the three years we have been together had been my happiest. The plan was to get married to her this October. We were set to make a life-long commitment to each other and that made me very proud looking at where it all started. I made sure not to spare a dime just to ensure we had the most memorable wedding.

A month ago, I noticed Amanda was getting distant. I thought it was just a phase that would end in no time but it kept getting worse. She kept distancing herself from me and from everything that was going on between us. I asked her, “Is anything the matter?” She said, “Everything is fine. I’m only anxious about the marriage, that’s all. When a woman doesn’t need to say she’s fine. Being fine is not a word. It’s something that ought to show in your attitude. She said she was fine but I wasn’t going to take it just like that so I started to dig around. 

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Her best friend was the only person I could fall on to get information from. After pestering her for a while, she told me what the issue was about. She said, “David is back in the picture. They’ve been sneaking around for some time now.” My heart skipped several beats. I didn’t sleep on what her friend told me. I wanted to get the truth right from her own mouth so I asked her. “Amanda, I learned you’re still seeing David. Is that case?” “I’m not seeing him,” She said. “I went to talk to him because I needed closure on everything. Our meeting was only about that and nothing more.”

“Nothing more?” No, there could be something more so I decide to look for the missing links to the whole story. I sneaked through her phone one night and I found a text between herself and David. In one of their chats, they were talking about what to do with the pregnancy. “There’s pregnancy involve?” The discussions were sketchy. I didn’t understand everything so I went back to her best friend again. I knew I could get the information from her because that girl had expressed some sort of soft spot towards me. She confirmed Amanda was a month pregnant for David. 

No words can express the shock I went through when I heard that. “After all these years? How could she do this to me?” I am hurt, angry, and disheartened. I’m experiencing pains at places I didn’t know exist. I haven’t told her anything neither have I asked any question. She thinks I do not know about the pregnancy. She thinks me a fool but even a fool has his day. I am planning to call off the wedding at the very last hour. Something has to give and I’m not going to play softball. A friend suggested I date her best friend to get back at her. I still love her and don’t know if I can bear to see her hurt. I want to confront her but I am dreading the outcome.

Do I confront her or do I retaliate her wickedness? Help, please.

–Kenneth

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