She was seated behind me when a friend called. It was just a casual conversation, nothing serious or off-limits. We talked about random things, and at some point, the topic shifted to food. She asked me about my favourite food, and I answered without thinking much of it. That’s when I noticed my girlfriend squirming in her seat, clearly trying to get my attention.

As soon as I ended the call, she pounced. “Who was that, and why does she want to know your favourite food?” she demanded.

I didn’t think telling someone my favourite food was a big deal. It’s just normal human conversation—you talk about all sorts of things when you’re comfortable with someone. But my girlfriend didn’t see it that way. She started piecing together her own theories.

“Are you going to her place to eat?” she asked.
“No,” I replied.
“Are you two going somewhere that involves food?”
“No.”
“Is she a chef?”
“No.”
“Then why does she need to know your favourite food?”

No matter what I said, it didn’t make sense to her. She eventually concluded, “I’m not letting this slide. Call her back and let me ask why she wants to know about your favourite food.”

I refused—not because I had anything to hide, but because I didn’t want the unnecessary drama. I know my girlfriend and what she can say when she’s on the attack. The lady I spoke to was innocent and didn’t deserve to be interrogated. I stood my ground and hid my phone. I even raised my voice: “No! You’re not talking to her. If you don’t want me sharing my favourite food with people, fine—I won’t do it again.”

But now, here I am, labelled as a cheater who can’t be trusted. According to her, I’m a good-for-nothing man, and no woman should ever invest her trust in me. For almost a week now, she’s been giving me the cold shoulder. She still insists on talking to my friend to “get answers,” but I refuse to let that happen.

We Dated For Four Years Before I Discovered He Was A Married Man

So, I’m asking: is it against the relationship code of ethics to talk about your favourite food with someone who isn’t your partner? Am I wrong for thinking this whole thing is completely blown out of proportion?

— Boateng

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