My woman and our child live in Accra while I live in the Northern Region because of work. Despite the distance between us, I visit them frequently. Most of the time I have to endure long hours of travel on the road but I know that my presence is as important as my provision. So I show up.

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We’ve been making plans to perform our traditional marriage rites this year so I have been working hard to get things in order. I thought she was also preparing for the marriage. However, recent developments have taught me that I might be in this alone.

This woman that I am planning my future with met a man on Facebook and within a week, she went to visit the guy and they had unprotected sex. I didn’t know until I contracted an STI from her.

She didn’t want to come clean at first but eventually, she admitted it. The guys she met were even two. It just happened that the other one is in another region so they haven’t met yet. Do you know what this means? She would have slept with him too if he was close enough.

I almost lost my mind when we had the conversation that night. I asked her, “What do you need in this life that I don’t give you?” She couldn’t speak. All she did was cry and say, “I am sorry.”

I am not saying I have given her the moon but I know for a fact that she doesn’t lack anything. I have rented a chamber and hall self-contained apartment for her while I live in a single room and porch.

When she told me she’d like to start a business, I got her a shop. That’s where she is working currently. Apart from setting her up to be financially independent, I go the extra mile to provide their needs. All she has to do is ask. Sometimes she doesn’t even ask. I anticipate what they need and I provide it. So what more could I have done to satisfy her?

I asked her, “Is it because of money? Were you in a tight place and couldn’t ask me for help?” She shook her head. So this Facebook guy from nowhere slept with my woman for free. The only money he ever gave her was GHS100. Can you imagine? It took her less than one week to throw away our five-year-old relationship, all for what?

I am trying so hard to forgive her but I can’t forget about what she did. On the other hand, I am considering the fact that we’ve come far. Plus, I still love her in spite of everything.

I have already performed the knocking rites. And I am making preparations to travel. So we were supposed to get married before I leave. That way I could bring her to join me once I got there. But look at what she is doing while I am still in Ghana. What will happen if I marry her and travel out?

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The painful thing is that this is not the only questionable thing she has done. Sometimes I just close my eyes over some of the things for the sake of peace. But now I am here in pain because she finally went too far.

How do you cheat on a man whose apartment you are living in? We even chatted that day but nothing touched her to change her mind when she was going to that man’s house. Not even the fact that we have a nice boy?

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She keeps apologizing and every time she does, I feel like crying. Especially when I consider the fact that she kept going to him until I caught her. It would be easier to walk away from her than forgive her but I don’t want to have kids with different women.

Our families are involved but I haven’t told them anything yet. I am just waiting for my travel plans to succeed so I leave. Maybe some distance will give me clarity to figure things out. My only problem is my son. I wanted to raise him in a home with both parents but his mother has messed things up.

—Sade

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