curses

I was so loyal to Janice that you would think she is the one who gave me life. My love for her was just as intense as that as well. I didn’t have any intention to be with any other woman besides her. Although our relationship was not perfect, she was enough for me. We were in a really good place. Then we both gained admission to training college. I thought that would make our love stronger. And true to my thoughts, it did. Everything we felt for each other became double. The two of us were all over the place on campus. It felt like we were in a Hollywood romcom when we were in our first year. Couples envied our bond and singles aspired to have what we had.

Somewhere in level 200, Janice started acting differently. I would ask to see her and she would tell me, “I can’t see you now, I am studying with some friends.” I’d call her to talk to her and she would be on another call. After she is done too she won’t return my call. Soon enough, the crack in our relationship became potholes that everyone else began to notice. They asked questions. “What’s going on with you and your woman? Have you broken up?” I answered everyone who asked, “No, we haven’t broken up. We are just busy this semester.” One person responded, “I see.” Another person responded, “Of course, you are busy” with busy in air quotes. Some people just gave me pity stares.

Janice’s behaviour, coupled with people’s responses gave me the impression that something was going on. I looked into it and found out that my girlfriend was seeing another guy. She didn’t deny it when I confronted her about it. She rather told me, “Now that you’ve found out, we can have a conversation and see the way forward for our relationship.” There was no conversation to be had. She had already made up her mind that she wanted out of the relationship. So that’s what happened. She left me. I couldn’t believe that someone I was dating a year before we came to school easily left me for someone else.

I was like a zombie in the days that followed. I couldn’t eat, and I couldn’t sleep. I would sit in class but everything the lecturers taught went over my head. I was coming apart bit by bit. I’d wake up every morning with a sharp pain in my chest. The pain I experienced was so intense but gradually I improved. When I started feeling better I vowed that I wouldn’t fall in love again. We all say this after a break up so I suppose it doesn’t mean anything. Because as soon as Janice walked back into my life, I gave her room. “I am so sorry for how things ended between us,” she apologized, “I don’t know what I was thinking. You are the only man for me. Please give me another chance to make things right.”

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Remember that saying, “Once bitten, twice shy”? Well, it was the reverse for me. I convinced myself that the fact that she came to me meant that I was truly the only man for her. I was the one who broke her virginity so that also made me believe that she wouldn’t be able to leave me. So I gave her a second chance. I loved her wholeheartedly but I was scared she would get involved with another man. So I secretly recorded videos and photos of her naked. My plan was to use them to threaten her to stay with me.

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A few months after we were together, she started talking about another break-up again. I had no choice but to threaten to leak her nudes if she leaves me. Of course, I never released them although I still have them. However, I created a fake account and posted to our school group that I have her nudes and I was going to release them. I was hurt so I felt I had no choice. Of course, you can’t think straight when you’re in that situation. I did a whole lot of foolish things because my mind couldn’t process the breakup, but I’m grateful I didn’t release the videos. What I did that I am not proud of was curse her. I woke up one dawn and walked in my neighbourhood from 12:00 AM to 3:00 AM and mentioned her name repeatedly while pronouncing that she would never have happiness in any relationship.

I didn’t stop there. I fasted for two whole days without food just to continue cursing her. I believe she also cursed me. Because a year after our break up I dreamt that she was cursing me. After that dream, I suffered a lot of losses in my business. I had to incessantly before things started getting better for me. My business is now booming and I am doing well in life. I was enjoying my peace of mind until I had a dream about Janice recently. She was begging me to revert the curses I pronounced on her. So here I am, I don’t have anything against her. I still love her, even, though I am okay without her in my life. My question is, how do I revert the curses without involving her? I don’t want her to know what I did.

—Francis

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