The night we celebrated our first anniversary, I found out she cheated when the relationship was only five months old. It’s not the cheating that hurt me the most but the one she cheated with.
He was a friend who wanted to date her but she said no. That was before I came into the picture. She told me about it. She thought me wanting her was a bet between me and my friend to see who’d win. I had to bring her a piece of the sun for her to believe my intentions were pure and not a bet.
That friend she said no to had an opportunity to travel abroad. A couple of days before he left the country, they spent a weekend together in a hotel and did everything they could do before the guy left the country. The guy bragged about it to a friend and that friend laughed about it to another friend. It moved within the circle until I got to know of it.
My pride melted on my chest. I felt bruised in my heart and weak in my knee. “Someone you rejected for me? Was it because of the abroad?”
She said during those periods I wasn’t acting right so she thought I was going to leave her. It was a lie but I forgave her.
It took time but the feeling of hurt and anguish slowly dissipated. Two years later, we want to marry but that guy is back in the country. His presence is peeling off the scab of my sore. A friend told me, “Your guy is in town ooo. Hold your wife before he chops her again.”
That hurt.
I want to cheat back. I will do it with one of her friends. I don’t know how but that’s the plan. I don’t know how it’s going to solve anything but I feel if I get levelled with her, I can’t accuse her again or feel the pain again. Yes, I’ll let her know of it just like I also got to know.
What if she leaves me?
It’s A Man’s Fault When His Woman Cheats On Him
So be it. At least, both of us can rest in the knowledge that we messed things up with our own hands. I know it’s not a good idea but what if it’s the only thing that will help me get over it? Is it still a bad thing to do?
—Andy
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Let her go for maturity sake and don’t forget 2 wrongs doesn’t make right
1. Pray about your Marriage and relationship commit it into the hands of God trust him and he will establish a good one for you.
Don’t rush to get married let time test her, now that the guy is back let’s see what time will reveal to you.
2. This mess will continue in your marriage because it has become a seed that has been sewn in to your relationship. For it not to continue you have to breakup. Except she has proven to you.
3.Don’t rush to get married let time test her, now that the guy is back let’s see what time will reveal to you.
4. If this will make you sin then it’s not worth it. Fight for your salvation with fear and trembling. Remember sin brings death.
5. When a great opportunity is coming your way there is a test for you, and if you pass the test you will do well in life.
Don’t be tempted be careful, the devil is at work.
According to the seasons of life sometimes it may take 7-10years for another opportunity to come again with a test for you to pass to have access. Take note.
Dear its bad. If you do ,it will lead to chaos. Don’t get married to her . Break it off with her because it’s looks like you have not gotten over what she did. Once a seed of mistrust and doubt is sown there is nothing you can do about it. Being sincere with her is the right thing to do. Anger, bitterness, mistrust is the greatest punishment and burden one can give to one’s self.
Let her go & cut those friends off if only the story is true
And what will you get from doing that? Revenge? Stop lying to yourself. She’s not the reason you want to do it. You just need an opportunity to cheat and you’re what she did as a yardstick. If you don’t want to marry her because you can’t forgive her, just let her go and stop using cheating as revenge because it won’t make you heal. You’ll end up messing up big time and come back writing a lot for us to read. Enjoy your day.
Hmmmmm. Whether you like it or not, the deed has be done and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. It is either you let go of the relationship or you stay and wallow with the fact that the abroad guy spent the weekend with her, he is also back in town(it’s possibly they kept in touch and would probabaly sleep with him again) I won’t advice you to sleep with her friend and also won’t advice you to continue with the relationship because, you’ll never forgive her 💯. You dont date or marry someone out of pity. She lied to you, betrayed your trust too, I know you’re hurt cos of how you got to know bout it. END the relationship before it’s too late, I’ve forgiven a cheating Ex which later became one of the worst decisions I made in my life on planet earth. Most ladies do have a thing for “the abroad guys”
If you marry her dea s3 cheat-aton oo senior.
Never settle with a cheating partner.
It’s a habit that hardly wears off
Walk out/ end the relationship with a clean record instead of cheating back.
As Paa Kwesi rightly said, two wrongs don’t make it right
Cheers