I’ve developed feelings for a lady in my school. I admired her from afar for a long time before I got the chance to get close to her. It took a lot of effort to get her to notice me, actually. When she did, we hit it off instantly.

Things were going well between us. We started getting to know each other beyond the formalities of schoolmates. Through the connection we were nurturing, we ended up becoming intimate.

I was happy when it happened. I believed it meant she was mine. Yes, I knew that single act was not enough to build a connection between us, but I was hopeful. “All we have to do is talk and spend more time together to establish something concrete,” I thought.

Well, she changed drastically two days after our encounter. She started doing things that confused and hurt me.

I’ve seen her flirting with different guys on campus. Today, it’s Kofi. Tomorrow, it’s Kwame. She is so brazen with these flirtations too. Even at 11 p.m., I’ve seen her going out with men.

Whenever I asked her about her relationship with them, she laughed teasingly and said, “They are all just my friends.”

Maybe that’s the problem. If someone should ask her about me, she would be right to say that I am just a friend. Meanwhile, we’ve had sex. So how am I supposed to feel settled in my spirit, seeing her openly parade around with men she calls friends?

A few nights ago, I called her and asked, “What’s going on with us? I thought we were on the same page, but these days your energy has been off. Why?”

At first, she said, “What are you talking about? Everything is fine between us.”

I seized the opportunity to unpack everything I had seen her do with others. She started stuttering, “What… umm… I… I… I didn’t do anything. You know what? I’m in the middle of something. Let me call you back.”

I even felt bad for putting her on the spot. Then I stepped out a few minutes later and saw her at the male hostel with yet another guy.

I don’t understand why she is behaving like this after everything that has happened between us. How is it that I am beginning to fall in love with her because of our intimate moment together, yet she acts as if it meant nothing to her?

I want to know if this is how women carry themselves about these days. They give themselves to a man today, and move on with other men the next day? I wish there was something I could do to get her to see how deeply she is hurting me.

– Edwin