For the past eight months, we’ve been absolutely happy. I am always glowing. When people ask me my secret, I say it’s God but we all know it’s because of my boyfriend. When I smile, it reaches my eyes. This is a testament to the joy he brings to my heart. So long story short, I am in a relationship with a man I am crazy about. One who brings out the best in me.
For the past eight months, I haven’t lacked anything. The moment I ask, he provides. Some of my needs, he even anticipates them and makes provision for them before I ever
ask. This is a man I trust to lead me. I don’t question his intentions toward me so I can even follow him with my eyes closed.
Material needs aside, he makes time for my emotional needs and physical needs as well. I am his priority in everything he does. If it will put him in a position not to serve my best interest, he won’t do it. This is why I feel safe with him at all times.
Our relationship was progressing beautifully until the subject of marriage popped up. Chris is an eligible bachelor. I have seen the way women eye him when we are together. Sometimes they even give me a look that says, “You don’t belong with him. I do.” So I am not blind to the knowledge that other women want my man. He has also gotten to the place where he wants to be unavailable to other women. That’s right, he wants us to get married.
He is clocking thirty next year while I am twenty-four. He believes he has gotten to the ripe age for marriage. He wants us to start a family as soon as possible. That’s why he wants us to take the big step and tie the knot. I already said yes to his proposal. We would have been married by now had it not been for the barrier of religion.
He is a devoted catholic, while I am a Muslim. I know that in some marriages of this kind, everyone sticks to their religion. However, in ours, we want to fellowship together as a family. Therefore one person must convert to the other person’s faith.
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He told me, “I am willing to convert to your religion but my family is causing problems. They are fighting my decision to leave the Catholic faith. They don’t support me.” I told him not to worry. “If your family won’t let you convert, they can’t apply the same rule to me. I will leave Islam and become a catholic. All for the sake of our love.” He was happy to hear this but he insisted I get my family’s approval before I do anything.
It Will Be Difficult For Me To Commit To One Person
When I spoke to my mum about my decision to leave the Islamic faith, she didn’t have a problem with it. She and my aunts only said, “As long as that young man makes you happy, then we are fine with your decision.” Even my close paternal aunts are being supportive. The problem, however, is my dad.
My dad is a very difficult man. He is not someone who would nod his head and smile at me when I tell him something like this. I will be lucky if he doesn’t end up screaming at me. He will say I am going crazy or something. If he asks me to leave my man, I am not sure I will. I love this guy with the whole of my heart. Life without him is an experience I don’t want to have. That’s why I need your advice. How do I convince my dad to accept him the way my mum and aunts have? How do I let him understand that he is the best man for me?
—Husseina
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Husseina when it comes to religion and relationships it’s always a difficult subject but not an impossible subject. I have a colleague at work who was a Muslim but married a Christian man and converted to Christianity after marriage. My dear her husband pampers her to the moon and beyond. They have five kids in all. She still bears her Muslim name and I testify to the happiness her marriage brings her. At the same office, another Christian colleague is married to a PASTOR who is currently living with another woman as his sidekick . Even when she was diagnosed with breast cancer and underwent a mastectomy this Christian pastor of hers never visited the hospital. The day he visited,he came to the hospital with his sidekick sitting in the front seat of his car. My dear all I want to say is that, Good men are hard to come by so if you are fortunate enough to grab one , don’t let him go. Hold on tight 💪. There men out there but we are not always fortunate to meet real men every day 😜😔. Not every man is a MAN. Some men are boys disguised in Men’s clothing
Communion with God is a personal experience. You don’t do it for your spouse, your parents or even your children. Every union or relationship should respect that. You may want to explore both religions and take a personal decision on which of them you are most comfortable with. If it is Islam, then revisit the topic with your man. There are several examples of very successful interfaith marriages. If it is Catholic, you must anticipate the challenges including severing the relationship with your dad. It must be on principle, not necessarily love for your partner (remember, he has not been able to convert) or a fear that you may lose him if you don’t convert. In the same way as he is a good catch, so are you.
Marry as a Muslim and when you are out of daddy’s control, convert.
Marry him and convert after marriage. Before you convert after marriage let your father know that it is your desire to do so and you are not being forced. If he doesn’t support you don’t worry you have your mom and paternal aunties behind you. Don’t fear. Love is for fighters.if you are not a fighter then you can’t be a lover.
Why worry tell your dad you want to convert. Just continue in your faith and after marriage when it’s just you and your man you make the decision that suits you both. Remember that when you stand before God in judgement it’s just you and Him. First things first, for do what is expected first to ensure an issue free marriage process then you can resolve the religious issue after