My wife wants to start a YouTube channel and also be on TikTok. She told me about it and I didn’t have a problem with it. She’s beautiful, fluent and very intelligent so I thought she could do very well in videos until she told me what her content was going to be about. The whole content idea is centred around our family and the things we do on a daily basis.
We have triplets. They are three years old. She thinks she can create content around them and us. Showcasing how we manage our daily lives with triplets at the centre.
I’m not interested in putting my life out there. I’m a private person and mostly shy too. I don’t want the camera on me and I don’t want to be part of it. Again, I told her our kids can’t be in those videos too. They are young—too young to be exposed to such an environment. I know the kind of comments people can make in such videos.
I was clear with her. “I don’t have a problem if you want to do it but please, leave me and kids out of it. We don’t want to be part but we’ll be behind you, supporting you and urging you on to succeed, which we know you will.”
My wife bore. For the past few weeks, she had been moody. This is a marriage where we talk about everything. We have a resolution chair at the centre of our hall. When one of us wants to address an issue, he/she goes to sit there. You don’t have to say anything. Once I see her sitting there, I have to drop everything I’m doing and join her so we talk about what’s bothering her.
I’ve gone to the resolution center twice but my wife didn’t join. She said she had nothing to talk about since I was not ready to support her dreams. “Listen, I’m ready to contribute to the purchases of the equipment you’ll need to start. Even if you want me to carry those equipment and follow you around, I will but me and my kids can’t be in the videos.”
She calls this selfishness.
Am I being selfish here because we don’t want to be characters in her mini-series? The mood in my house is not right and it’s affecting me and the kids. My wife follows this page religiously and she will read it. Please help me make her understand my point clearly. Thank you.
—Adom
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What you are doing is right. Social media is a friendly and at the same time a toxic place. Don’t allow her to use her anger to change your stance. Let her do her videos alone but if you have some ideas share them with her that alone is more than being In the video.
I’ll say give it a try first, the whole family, and don’t just dismiss it. If it doesn’t go well, I’m sure you’ll all see the results and that could be a basis for a family decision.
“Adom” bebrebe”, be firm with the decision you’ve already taken else you may not like what may come next. Imagine joining her with the kids and things didn’t go as planned and she comes back to criticizing you here and there that you didn’t do enough to make things work? I do not think you would like that slap. Don’t allow her moody way to swing your stance. It’s 100% ways lots of people used to have their way or to get what they want. In the end, she’ll not take you seriously from there. “Once bitten twice shy” I have been there and it wasn’t pleasant. Your mental health matters
I agree with Maameafua👍
Maame Afia has my vote too!
I am a fluent and beautiful mom with an equally creative and handsome son, sometimes I imagine us trending in videos, but I also think of what he will go through, loosing his privacy at such a tender age.
As a mom, your love for your child must overcome your personal ambitions for a greater good.