My Wife Thinks Our Inability To Have A Child Is The Devil’s Doing

We’ve been married for three years without a child. To me, it’s not a problem. To my wife, it feels like the skies are falling on her. Everything that happens around us is seen through the filter of witchcraft.

She wakes up at dawn to chase away cats that come around to play while shouting, ”May the blood of Jesus render your motives useless! I bind you in Jesus’ name.” When the cock crows before the normal time, it’s the witches and wizards calling each other for a meeting over her.

She joins Alpha hour every night and prays loudly. My landlord has had a cause to ask me to tell her to tone it down. I said, “Adwoa, whatever we are going through is normal. Doctors have said it and I believe with time everything will be alright. Why don’t you relax?”

Her answer was, “You’re a man so you won’t understand my shame. No one laughs at you or points at you as the reason why we are unable to give birth that’s why you say what you say. If everything is normal as you say, why don’t we have a child?”

She sows a seed in different churches and attends prayer sessions at different non-denominational churches. She complains about lack of money but there’s always money for her to sow a seed. Before she opens the main door in the morning, she prays and sprinkles holy water on the doorstep before stepping out. I’ve seen her chewing the beach sand before. She said it was a direction from a man of God.

I’m tired. Her restlessness is causing me to be restless in my spirit. I wish there was a shortcut to make this happen so she could be happy and free. I’m doing my best. Even when I’m not in the mood, I get on top and perform my duty as a husband but cometh the month, we’ll see red. She’ll break down and scream, “This month too?”

I will do everything for her to be free, I swear, but currently, there’s only very little I can do. I’m here asking what I can do to calm down her wandering spirit. If you’ve been in this situation before, what did you do to calm yourself down while you wait to get pregnant? I’ll read comments with her, hoping she finds an answer. Hoping one piece of advice hits a chord and makes her understand good things take time.

—King