She introduced him to me as his Christian brother when we were dating. His name is Mark. According to the story I heard, Mark was so close to my girlfriend people thought they were dating but they were just friends. When I came into the picture, she thought it wise for us to know each other.
Mark is a good guy. You only have to talk to him once to know the purity of his thoughts. We dated for over a year before we got married. Through it all, Mark was around. He came into our conversations often. When we had troubles, she prayed with Mark about it. When he could advise her, he did just that. I didn’t have issues with that because I thought after marriage things would change between her and Mark. She would be a wife and Mark would be someone she used to be close to.
We’ve been married for four months and the way I see it, Mark isn’t going away anytime soon. Recently, I went through her phone to see what she had been talking to Mark about now that we were married.
My wife was a virgin when we married. On our honeymoon, she was telling Mark, “What if I get paralyzed after the first round?” Mark responded with laughing emojis. He responded, “Your mom didn’t get paralyzed the first time so you won’t.”
After the action, she narrated everything that happened to Mark through a seven-minute sixteen-second voice note. Every detail. My size, the struggle, the pain, how she felt and when she swore never to do it again. Everything.
That aside, when I went to work and I didn’t come home early, she asked Mark if it was a sign that I was cheating. In a nutshell, Mark knows everything, including the number of pubic hairs on my distin.
I’m beginning to feel uneasy for a single person to know this much about me. I showed her the messages. I told her I wasn’t comfortable that she was sharing this much about us. She defended her actions; “Mark prays for us every day. If he doesn’t know what we are going through, how will he pray about our problems?”
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She sounded naive but felt she was right. Looking at the stand she has taken, it doesn’t look like she’ll change her mind about Mark. If I force her, she’ll talk to him in secret. I’ve therefore decided to meet Mark man-to-man to talk to him about creating boundaries between himself and my wife. Do you think it’s a good thing to do? To talk to Mark about this issue?
— Eben
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Man, it’s a bad idea that she’s talking to Mark this details about your marriage. It’s not healthy at all. Go beyond talking to Mark: raise the issue with your counselor or pastor or someone which she respects.
If she continues on thst trajectory, it would not be long before your marriage come crushing. Take drastic action now
I think you are right. It’s important you don’t push your wife into her shell. Bringing in a third party may do just that! For the same reason you must apply a lot of tact with Mark and not sound confrontational. If you are asking Mark to lay off, then you must be prepared to work hard and assiduously towards filling the void that this will create in your wife’s life. Are you prepared to be her comfort, a non judgmental listening ear? Are you prepared to be frank and honest with her? If your answer is a genuine yes then you have my blessings to proceed. If not, then it is you who has to lay off!
Nope, don’t talk to Mark; talk to her mother. Also get her to feel comfortable discussing some of these things with you.
Talking to Mark would be a good idea but u need to do it in such a way that wouldn’t project u as an insecure husband. Your wife seems a little childish so don’t be too hard on her. If talking to Mark doesn’t yield any fruit, speak to a counselor about it. Third wheels never help any marriage.