My girlfriend has a tattoo. She had it when she was twenty-six in memorial to the death of her twin sister. It’s a flower bearing the name of her sister. She has two others but those once are hidden in intimate places. I took her home to meet my parents. They welcomed her and interacted nicely with her. When we left, my mom called to say, “Naaa, she can’t be the one. Bring another one home. This one has no morals.”
When my dad took the phone, he said, “I’m retweeting what your mom said. Bring another woman home. This one won’t take you anywhere.”
This person they say won’t take me anywhere is ahead of me in life, to be honest. She has a better job, a better apartment and owns a car I can only dream of having. Regardless of all these, she’s down to earth and kisses the ground I walk.
The annoying thing, my parents accepted everything she sent to them that day; foodstuffs, fabrics, money etc and said thank you yet they don’t like her.
They invited me to a family meeting where my elder brothers were asked to advise me. Even my younger sister was allowed to talk to me anyhow. I don’t mean to disrespect my parents but the thing is, they can’t change my mind. As for my elder brothers, they’ve been here longer than me without a single tattoo on their skins yet they can’t hold a torch to this lady’s achievement in life.
We have time, a year or two ahead of us before marriage. I pray they change their mind if not they might have to cast me out of the family for marrying a woman I want to marry. The problem is my girlfriend. Immediately she senses any hint of resistance from my parents, she will walk away. I don’t want that to happen.
I Called Her Affair Partner And He Said Something I Will Never Forget
Should I keep my parents’ opinion of her from her until further notice or I should discuss it with her now and see her reaction? I wouldn’t want her to discover it herself and I wouldn’t be the one to tell her. What should I do?
— Frimpong
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Frimpong, there must be more to this story than you are telling. You mean you were invited to a family meeting because of a harmless tattoo your girlfriend had on her hand in memory of her late twin sister? Did you tell them what the sign represents? There must be something else. Anyway don’t tell her anything yet. Work on your mother first.
Old prejudices are difficult to let go. I must admit, I myself do share such prejudices. I met an old friend after a long while and I couldn’t help staring at his dread locks. But he turned out to be the same amiable guy. Don’t fight your family. Encourage them to get to know her. Thankfully they are not openly hostile. One step at a time, one visit at a time. Slowly but surely their hearts will thaw. They mean well for you. There’s no need to compare her to your brothers. Be firm about marrying her, but do not let your frustration destroy your relationship with your family.
I agree with Sammy. You going against them will worsen the case .
This is a situation that needs to be handled with utmost care and circumspection. This development brings to attention a line in one of the songs of the late Dasebere Dwamena which States, “I took the her home to introduce her to my parents and they vehemently opposed to mine intention of marrying her”.
A good way to approach it might be to express his appreciation for her qualities and acknowledge the personal meaning behind her tattoo. He could say my parents are thinking like any other parent would do. The perception that anyone with tattoo on the body or dreadlocks life is questionable per our cultural and religious perspectives my parents are scared that you might be one of those ”supposed bad girls”.
On the part of his parents, he should remain calm and well-composed and keep reminding them of her positive qualities and how much she means to him. Through that it would help them see past their initial reservations and focus more on her values and character, rather than her appearance.
This is a situation that needs to be handled with utmost care and circumspection. This development brings to attention a line in one of the songs of the late Dasebere Dwamena which States, “I took her home to introduce her to my parents and they vehemently opposed to mine intention of marrying her”.
A good way to approach it might be to express his appreciation for her qualities and acknowledge the personal meaning behind her tattoo. He could say my parents are thinking like any other parent would do. The perception that anyone with tattoo on the body or dreadlocks life is questionable per our cultural and religious perspectives my parents are scared that you might be one of those ”supposed bad girls”.
On the part of his parents, he should remain calm and well-composed and keep reminding them of her positive qualities and how much she means to him. Through that it would help them see past their initial reservations and focus more on her values and character, rather than her appearance.