My boyfriend and I have a two-year-old daughter together. We have been living together for the past three years. However, I enrolled in the university recently. So I had to relocate to a place near school. That way I would save money on transportation.

Here is the thing, I have been suspecting him of cheating on me since. I saw some text messages between him and a certain lady. He was begging her to go visit him. When I confronted him, he said it was temptation. “You were not here so I got lonely.” I had gone to my mum’s place for almost a month then. He said he was sorry. “It won’t happen again,” he promised.

Ever since I saw that message, things haven’t been the same between us. Every time I went through his phone I found messages of him flirting with other girls. I would confront him but he wouldn’t admit it. He would rather get defensive and pick a fight with me. “Why are you being so insecure?” He would say.

Last month he came to visit me. The entire time he was here a certain girl kept texting him.

“When are you coming back?”

“I miss your vibes.”

I asked him about it and he said they were just friends. After he left, our neighbour from where he lives called to report him. According to her, he has been bringing different girls to sleep over.” I was so hurt and angry. I decided I was done putting up with a chronic cheater.

I travelled to his place that very night. When I got there it was past 9:00 PM but I packed my things and decided to leave. His sister who had visited me at the time I received the call informed his parents about what happened.

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His parents asked me to calm down. “Whatever they said he did. You don’t have to leave the relationship. You can work it out.” After talking to them I called my mother and narrated the situation to her. She advised me to leave him. “If he is doing this now then it will only get worse with time. Leave now and save your peace.”

Although my boyfriend denies the claims against him, he has apologized. However, he says if I insist on leaving him he can’t do anything about it.
I don’t know what to do right now. Should I listen to my mother or his mother? I am twenty-two and this is my first relationship. So I don’t have much experience. What advice do you have for me in this situation?

— Akua

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