I was barely a few weeks pregnant when I found out that my husband was cheating. I took the lady’s number to call her, only to find out that my husband’s photo was her WhatsApp DP. I called her and asked questions. I wanted to be sure if she knew my husband had a wife. She took offence and insulted me on the phone. She told my husband about it, and he also came to insult me, calling me a villager.
Months later, I’d forgotten everything that had taken place and was concentrating on my pregnancy when this lady tracked me down one day with her friend. They tried all they could to pick a fight with me, but I didn’t respond to them. The lady said, “You’re pregnant? You’ll give birth for us to see.”
When I complained to my husband, he told me he and the lady had nothing to do with each other, so he wouldn’t want to involve himself in women’s fights. “She attacked me because of you. I don’t know what happened between you two, but she knows me because of you, so why won’t you do anything?”
He brushed it aside and called it a women’s fight.
Months later, I gave birth. Just under a week later, I lost the baby under bizarre circumstances. While I was mourning, my husband said, “I suspect that lady is responsible for this death. Do you remember what she told you?” I asked him, “When I told you about it, what did you do? You now know the devil you’ve brought into my life?”
Maybe he was still talking to the lady. Maybe something went wrong between him and the lady, and the lady shifted her anger onto me. I can’t say for sure, but one day, he came to tell me he spoke to his mom, and his mom thinks we should go to the lady with gifts, apologize, and seek her forgiveness.”
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I told him, “Even if your mom comes here to tell me what you’re telling me, I won’t take a single step. What did I do to the lady that I should apologize to her? Whatever you did to her that you believe strongly is why she’s chasing you, resolve it with her and leave me alone.”
Eventually, he gave up trying to convince me and said, “I’ve done my best. If you won’t listen to me and do what I say, so be it.”
I’ve been thinking about it. I didn’t fight this lady. I didn’t even insult her. She was the one who attacked me, and I ignored her. Why should I be the one to apologize to her? Does this make sense?
—Angela
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He did not tell his mother the truth. He spun the story to his mother to make you seem like the bad guy.
Also, I think he and the lady must have broken it off very badly. Hence her utterance. Or he must have spun some cock and bull story about you and the pregnancy to make it seem like he was leaving you but you forced yourself on him and you got pregnant.
Along those lines. But I think if your story is anything to go by, you shouldn’t be the one to apologise really! She should be apologising together with your husband. In fact, your husband should apologise to you both cos it’s giving he’s taken the two of you for idiots.
Madam next time if you suspect your husband cheating don’t pick the person’s number and call, it’s very wrong.
The side chick don’t owe you any explanations, your husband should be the right person you should confront.
We have people that if you cross their lane they won’t forgive you. So know how to deal with people especially when you’re pregnant. Not everybody we see has a good spirit.
Bello has said it all. Instead of doing that focus on yourself and your prayer life. Never take everything for granted in this life .
Has it occurred to you that your husband may not have been cheating after all? Not all women acquaintances are our lovers and your insecurities may discourage him from sharing this information with you. I don’t think the loss of your baby has anything to do with your confrontation and you don’t have to apologize if you don’t want to. Put the past behind you and move on.
I agree with Bello, most women do make such mistakes
But never apologize if the only thing u did was calling to find out