My husband was very sick. For one year, he couldn’t sit or walk or stand or be a man. He was a vegetable. Always in bed. The only thing he could do very well was talk. He was depreciating very fast but it looked like his ability to talk was moving in the opposite direction.
When it looked like all hope was lost, he started talking about death and what we should do when he dies. He asked me to promise him one thing. That I would never marry again if he died. “I want you to have time for the kid and also preserve my memory.”
He asked me to make that promise very often but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I was twenty-nine years old and had been married for only three and a half years. One out of the three, my husband had been sick. I felt there was too much ahead of me to promise a man that I wouldn’t live once he was gone.
He tried but I never made the promise. One day he said, “I see. You’ve already decided on what to do but make sure you don’t bring any monster around my child.” I told him, “You’re not dead and you’re not going to die. Let’s concentrate on bringing you healing. That way, I wouldn’t have to think about who to marry.”
Slowly, he nudged himself back to life. One day he sat up. Another day, he took a step. One evening, he was back to being a man again. Our house which once smelled like a hospital regained its freshness because the man of the house was back on his feet again.
My husband now hates me because according to him I couldn’t make a simple promise when he was dying. “If you loved me enough, it would have been easier for you to promise me.”
The whole thing sounds so petty I always laugh whenever he brings up the topic. “This is the woman who toiled night and day to ensure you’re here today. You think I didn’t love you enough? Then what was I doing next to you for over a year?”
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He even thinks I was seeing another man while he was stuck in bed. I took the matter to his parents and my husband was able to convince his parents that I was the problem. Even to the extent, that his parents are supporting him to divorce me. When I called the issue in front of my parents, this man changed the topic and listed all the sins I’d committed since we got married. It was no longer the promise but something else.
I don’t have a problem leaving him but I’ve made him a promise that once he walks me out of the house, he would go back to the bed that hosted him for over a year. As simple as that.
—Tabitha
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I support you 100%. Immediately he sends you out of that house, send him back to his old friend. Papa annye hwie a bone nso ennye hwie. Nsemfon sie
Besides this is a hopelessly insecure, foolish and childish adult boy😂😂
Let him go and get yourself a sensible and confident man! You can’t live with an idiot like this.
Am a married man but I support you in this …..such petty and foolishness and his parents are fools as well.
I will even suggest you leave him even if he changes his mind cos he doesn’t deserve you .
Seems he has already made up his mind long ago.
Let him go dear.
Simplicita!!!
Would he remain single forever if you happen to die first? Women are suffering in the name of marriage ooh. Madam please send him back to that bed fast when he tries that nonsense.
The man sorry boy is so childish and petty. ah.
It’s unfortunate that you got yourself a big small boy. Deciding to marry or not after his demise is your choice, your decision to make not him.
He is a boy yet to grow up. He is concerned about you getting married should he pass away to the extent that he will be ungrateful after you have nurtured him back to good health. Let him go, you don’t deserve all that he and his family have taken you through.
Your husband is selfish instead of him to adore you for being there whiles he was on his sick bed, he is rather misbehaving. Sis do what your heart tells you he doesn’t deserve you