She was the one who walked up to me after a meeting we both attended ended. It was the first time she had seen me but she told me, “I like the way you are. Can we be friends?” I liked her too. Not often does a woman initiate a conversation with me in an attempt to be my friend. Her directness impressed me a great deal.

Things moved pretty fast between us. Barely a month after we met, we started dating. I think our proximity sped up our bond. We are in the same university and in the same hostel. So we saw each other quite often after that first meeting. Before we knew it, romantic feelings were involved.

When I asked her to be my girlfriend she told me; “Before we start anything I want you to know that I haven’t been with a man before. And I intend to keep it that way until marriage.” Just like her, I have also not done it before.

I am not necessarily waiting for marriage but when she gave me her conditions, I decided that we were perfect for each other. “Then it means you will also be my first when we finally do it on our wedding night,” I said. The fact that our values are aligned sealed the deal for her.

The truth is, it was all fun and games for me from the start. I just liked the novelty of it all. It was also nice to enjoy her good vibes. That’s how my heart got involved. The more time I spent with her, the more I liked her. When I finally fell in love with her, the feelings grew more intense with each passing time.

Naturally, I am a jovial person. I don’t even try to make people laugh but whenever I talk, people find me funny. Everywhere I go, laughter is bound to accompany me. People tend to like me easily because of this.

While most of the women I have met in my life tend to like funny guys, my girlfriend doesn’t. According to her, “Men who are funny are for everyone. I don’t want to date such a man. That’s why I don’t date funny guys.” Somehow she made an exception for me.

I believe I haven’t done much to make her regret her decision to give me a chance. I am a carefree person. I’m not one to complain about little things when I am with someone. I give my partners the freedom to be themselves. I thought she would want me to be myself too but recent happenings have proven otherwise.

READ ALSO: My Husband Is Suffering In Our Marriage Because Of My Past

One thing I like about her is she is intelligent. She is someone who will go far in life. This makes her perfect for me. It’s just unfortunate, she doesn’t see me as a perfect match anymore. She says I am too funny for her liking.

She is usually quite focused and serious. I don’t think there’s anything wrong if a serious person dates a carefree person. At the end of the day, we are supposed to complement each other. My girl doesn’t see things that way. She even hates it most that I am surrounded by friends who are also funny. In her eyes, they are a bad influence on me. Since when did it become a bad thing for someone to have a sense of humor?

Now, she is using our age gap as a reason to end things. I never hid my age from her. I am two years younger than her. This didn’t bother her in the beginning but now it does. “You are playful and funny because you are too young. Your friends are also your age mates, so you don’t see anything wrong with what you do.” This is someone who is only two years older than me but she spoke to me as if there was a decade between us.

She is saying it’s over but I have also come to love her too much to lose her. How do I get her back? Does it mean I have to stop being funny? This is who I have been my whole life. How do I change that? I read a story here about a woman who married a younger guy. I believe I can make ours work too. I need your advice to convince my girl to give me a second chance.

— Abeiku

This story you just read was sent to us by someone just like you. We know you have a story too. Email it to us at [email protected]. You can also drop your number and we will call you so you tell us your story.

#SB