She was the one who walked up to me after a meeting we both attended ended. It was the first time she had seen me but she told me, “I like the way you are. Can we be friends?” I liked her too. Not often does a woman initiate a conversation with me in an attempt to be my friend. Her directness impressed me a great deal.
Things moved pretty fast between us. Barely a month after we met, we started dating. I think our proximity sped up our bond. We are in the same university and in the same hostel. So we saw each other quite often after that first meeting. Before we knew it, romantic feelings were involved.
When I asked her to be my girlfriend she told me; “Before we start anything I want you to know that I haven’t been with a man before. And I intend to keep it that way until marriage.” Just like her, I have also not done it before.
I am not necessarily waiting for marriage but when she gave me her conditions, I decided that we were perfect for each other. “Then it means you will also be my first when we finally do it on our wedding night,” I said. The fact that our values are aligned sealed the deal for her.
The truth is, it was all fun and games for me from the start. I just liked the novelty of it all. It was also nice to enjoy her good vibes. That’s how my heart got involved. The more time I spent with her, the more I liked her. When I finally fell in love with her, the feelings grew more intense with each passing time.
Naturally, I am a jovial person. I don’t even try to make people laugh but whenever I talk, people find me funny. Everywhere I go, laughter is bound to accompany me. People tend to like me easily because of this.
While most of the women I have met in my life tend to like funny guys, my girlfriend doesn’t. According to her, “Men who are funny are for everyone. I don’t want to date such a man. That’s why I don’t date funny guys.” Somehow she made an exception for me.
I believe I haven’t done much to make her regret her decision to give me a chance. I am a carefree person. I’m not one to complain about little things when I am with someone. I give my partners the freedom to be themselves. I thought she would want me to be myself too but recent happenings have proven otherwise.
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One thing I like about her is she is intelligent. She is someone who will go far in life. This makes her perfect for me. It’s just unfortunate, she doesn’t see me as a perfect match anymore. She says I am too funny for her liking.
She is usually quite focused and serious. I don’t think there’s anything wrong if a serious person dates a carefree person. At the end of the day, we are supposed to complement each other. My girl doesn’t see things that way. She even hates it most that I am surrounded by friends who are also funny. In her eyes, they are a bad influence on me. Since when did it become a bad thing for someone to have a sense of humor?
Now, she is using our age gap as a reason to end things. I never hid my age from her. I am two years younger than her. This didn’t bother her in the beginning but now it does. “You are playful and funny because you are too young. Your friends are also your age mates, so you don’t see anything wrong with what you do.” This is someone who is only two years older than me but she spoke to me as if there was a decade between us.
She is saying it’s over but I have also come to love her too much to lose her. How do I get her back? Does it mean I have to stop being funny? This is who I have been my whole life. How do I change that? I read a story here about a woman who married a younger guy. I believe I can make ours work too. I need your advice to convince my girl to give me a second chance.
— Abeiku
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Please let her go. You can’t repress who you are. If she can’t accept who you are then it’s a huge red flag. What is life without laughter. Already she sees your age gap as a problem and was looking for an excuse to end . You can’t force someone to accept ,love ,respect or believe in you. Remember that friends and family are what keeps us sane.
Let her go. If she can’t accept an essential part of you, then there’s no saving the relationship. I also believe that she was just looking for an excuse to break up with you . Lots of girls like funny guys. You’ll find someone to love you for you. I just hope that you weren’t using her as the butt of your jokes. That would explain why she’s leaving you
This is funny and st the same time absurd. In this age and time where virtually every girl/woman wants a funny guy and wants the man they date or marry to make them laugh. Put yourself first always. We live in times where we are being brainwashed by feminists into being emasculated. Communication is an important aspect in any relationship. Give a try. If you two cannot agree, respect her decision and move away from her and get on with your life. No matter what you do, never beg her or show emotions or cry while she’s there with you. She’ll see you as a weak man and one with lots of emotions. Women see such men as babies and weak. Be an alpha male, go no contact with her and cut off all communication. Upload pictures of yourself having a good time and give it a lil time before you start dating again.
Lol. I believe she is a Choleric and you are a Sanguine and these two don’t really go well in the aspect of romantic relationships. Her type will blend well with a Phlegmatic while you can blend well with a Melancholic.
You can read up these four temperaments in the book “why you act the way you do”.