Fred called to ask for a favour. He’s a friend I’ll do a favour for without thinking twice about it. He’s been there for me on several occasions and I think I owe him that much. I asked what kind of favour he wanted and he told me, “My girlfriend. I want someone to put her to the test and I believe you can do that.” 

I laugh at him. “You’re joking, right?” 

From all indications, he wasn’t joking. He was serious about putting his girlfriend to a test and see how strong her love for him was. I tried to advise him against it but that was all he wanted. So I asked how he wanted me to go about it 

“Let’s start from Facebook. She’s always there so it’s easier to reach her out there. When she tries to play stubborn there, we’ll move to the next level which is Whatsapp.” 

I wished he didn’t choose me for the job but he did. As I said earlier, he’s someone I could hardly say no to so we set off to implement his plan. 

I sent his girlfriend a friend’s request and she accepted that very day. I sent her a hello. She read and she ignored. A day later, I sent Fred a screenshot of that and told him, “I said hello but she hasn’t responded.” He told me, “Then say it again. Not only hello but add something. You can say that you know her from somewhere. You already know where she works so use it “ 

“Hello Gladys, I’m not a bad person. I said hello because I thought I knew you from somewhere. Pardon me if you’re not the one but don’t you work at so-so-and-so? I met you there. You helped me a lot that day, maybe you don’t remember but I do and I appreciate your help.” 

A few minutes later, I heard the typing tone of Messenger. She was typing a response to my message. I waited patiently and the response that came was, “Really? When was that? Yeah, that’s where I work but I don’t remember having dealings with someone like you.” 

It was easier to convince her because Fred had given me all the information about her job and her role. That day we never stopped talking. Obviously, she was pleased and I acted pleased too. She asked where I was and I told her I travelled abroad three years ago. The conversation switched to my life abroad and whether or not I would come back soon. I told her, “I’m coming back next week and I’ll be pleased to meet you again when I come.” 

She responded positively to everything I said. I was telling Fred how the whole thing was going and added screenshots where necessary. He told me, “Propose to her and let’s see how it goes.” I responded, “If you want me to get her then we don’t have to rush. Let’s take it slowly and see how it goes.”

In our next conversation, I asked if she had a boyfriend and her response was, “Why do you ask? You want to give me a boyfriend?” I sent laughing emojis. She sent one back. She responded, “No I don’t have a boyfriend but there’s a guy I’m talking to. It seems he likes me but can’t say it. Apart from that guy, there’s no one.” 

My heart skipped several beats. According to Fred, they had been dating for over two years and he was thinking about marriage so how come she was saying she didn’t have a boyfriend?” I probed further and she told me, “I’m not a small girl to be doing girlfriend-boyfriend things. At this stage of my life, marriage talk is what excites me. I need a man to plan my future with and not a man whose only aim is to stay a boyfriend forever.”

That day I proposed to her, “Yes I want to give you a boyfriend and that boyfriend is myself.” She responded, “You’re coming very soon, right? I’ll wait for you. When you come, I want you to look at me and say what you just said. I’ll give you an answer right there.” I called her through Facebook Messenger. I heard her voice for the first time and she was happy that we were talking on the phone.

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The following morning she was the one who called. I asked for feedback on my proposal and she said yes. She went ahead to talk about the plans and all the things we’ll do when I get to Ghana. We had met online for less than a week and she was already my girlfriend. All I had to do was call Fred and tell him his girlfriend was cheap and that I’d been able to get her within a week. I couldn’t do that. My conscience was nagging me. I felt like I was being used as a conduit to destroy someone’s relationship. We all lie, especially when we are not sure of what we have.

When I spoke to Fred I asked if Gladys knew his intention about marriage. He told me, “No she doesn’t know. I want to know if she’s trustworthy before I can go that far with her.” I asked, “Don’t you think if she gets to know, it will rest her heart and give her the assurance of a good future with you? Women want stability and security for the future. Once they are assured of these, they’ll say no to others no matter what.” 

He didn’t agree with me and I also couldn’t tell him that his girlfriend had been won. I told him she was giving me attitude. I told him anything just to assure him that I’m trying my best because his girl was proving hard to get. He gave me her number. He asked me to throw that in the mix and see how it goes. I had my own mind and I knew how I was going to do things. 

The day I was supposed to reach Ghana, I blocked her on Facebook. I sent a message to Fred, “Your girl blocked me ooo. I proposed to her and she blocked me.” He asked me, “Just like that?” I answered, “Just like that. Maybe she didn’t see it coming. She told me she had a boyfriend but I went ahead to propose. Maybe that’s why I chopped block.” 

If he got the impression that I didn’t do it well, he might have tried someone else. I didn’t want him to stress the girl. I painted a picture of a girl who doesn’t tolerate nonsense and he believed me. He even laughed at me and apologized for putting me in such a situation. He told me, “I’ll invite you to our wedding very soon. That’s all I wanted to know, if I was indeed marrying the right woman. Thank you for doing this. I owe you a lot.” 

As we speak, they are getting ready to Marry in May. Fred keeps posting their photo shoot on his status. He’s happy about the process. He’ll post a photo of her and sing her praises in endless paragraphs. The good thing is, he’s happy with her and that’s all that matters but I can’t stop thinking of the fact that I betrayed him. He trusted me and I lied to him. What if indeed Gladys is not the kind of woman Fred thinks she is? What if the opportunity lay in my hand to save a friend from a bad marriage?

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These what-ifs keep raging in my conscience but most often I want to believe that I did a good thing. If Fred was tested by a rich man’s daughter coming from abroad to marry him, I don’t think he would have chosen Gladys and left the Rich man’s daughter. He would have called it grace. He would have said it was God who threw such favour his way because God knows how he desperately needs a breakthrough. 

I lied and I’m finding reasons to whitewash my sins but who doesn’t lie? I wish them well. God should be their guide as they embark on this journey. With God, all things are possible. 

–Collins

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