My ex-girlfriend came to my wedding uninvited. I saw her dancing during collection. She wasn’t moving. She jammed up the queue with her slow dance pace. Those who were behind her walked past her, put their money in the collection bowl and left her behind. My wife noticed her and asked if I knew her. I shook my head.
I was restless. I hadn’t seen her in two years. We didn’t talk or exchange messages within those two years. I didn’t know how she got to know about my wedding because after the breakup she blocked me at places I didn’t know existed. I couldn’t access her however hard I tried.
“What’s this girl doing here?”
All through the service I kept my eyes on her, trying to figure out her intentions but didn’t make any wrong move. She kept dancing and walking around until the service was over. She came to the reception. She was on the dancing floor holding a can of malt. I tried to get eye contact with her but she avoided me.
Later in the evening, when the reception was about to end, my best man handed me an envelope. He whispered, “A lady gave it to me. She says you should open it when alone.”
I rushed to the washroom and opened the envelope. It had a GHC100 note and a piece of paper that said, “This is for the food and drink but it’s not over yet.”
We had a very bad breakup and it was due to her bad temper. She didn’t know how to behave when she was angry. It could be in a church or at a seminar. She would let everyone around her know that she was angry.
We got pregnant but were not ready to have the child so I impressed upon her to abort and she did. Since then, every little thing, she would remind me of how she aborted for me and the pain she went through and curse everyone she suspected I was dating.
It was terrible the way she behaved. I couldn’t stand it any longer so I did the honourable thing and called for a breakup. She didn’t take it lightly. She fought on all fronts but I was determined to let her go and I did.
Two years later, at my wedding, she appeared from nowhere to show the world her dancing moves. I didn’t know what the note was about so I called her a day later. I was still blocked. I called on another line and she asked why I was calling. “The note. What was it about?” I asked. She answered, “You’ll know when the time comes. You remember I aborted for you, right?”
Then she cut the call.
I called again. I’d been blocked. When she hears my voice on another line, she cuts the call and blocks my line. I still have the note. I look at it from time to time trying to decode the message. Trying to see if something about the way she wrote it will give me a clue. No clue except confusion and anxiety about what she intends to do.
What Would Make My Husband Think I’m His Ex?
I don’t know and I don’t know how you may know but I’m going to ask anyway. What does she mean and what does she intend to do? Do you think it’s a good idea for me to travel hours to her place to have a discussion with her? What about my wife, must she know about this?
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why did you lie to your wife when she asked about if you knew her? why did you even go ahead to give her audience by calling her. bro you need to come clean and communicate effectively with your wife. Remember that once you start telling her lies, you would have to continue always. remember say you dey grow, somtins you mor shon. time no dey!!!
You just married come clean with your wife tell her what is going on show her the note let her know everything she will support you.
Let your wife know before she get to her. You going to her won’t do you any good. She won’t give you any explanation. Temptation might even come in. She is your ex so you have nothing to do with her again. For the mean time tell your wife about everything related to your ex. You hiding this information may bring chaos . But if you try going to her place bring in an elderly person. It might be of help. Don’t forget pray because a scornful woman is a dangerous woman. Every step that you take Don’t forget to let your wife know . Best of luck.
The clue is in what she told you, that you made her abort the pregnancy. But if she’s an ex that you’ve not spoken to in 2 years, then why the worry. Please don’t entertain her, with time she will understand that you are married. But tell your wife the truth. Don’t allow her to destroy your marriage.
If you’ve closed that chapter, please close it for good.
You should have told your wife the truth when she asked. Better late than never, tell her now before this gets out of hand.
Come clean and tell your wife every detail. Next report her to the Police for threatening you. Don’t take the threat lightly
Reading your story reminded me of the Michael Douglas-Glenn Close movie, Fatal Attraction. This is a dangerous woman, and you must treat her as such. She has a mental problem. Don’t let your wife near her, but of course, tell her everything about ex. Don’t go there alone. Take two responsible people, as witnesses, to go and discuss the note with her, and to let her know, in no uncertain terms that she should leave you and your family alone.