My ex-boyfriend stole from me. I met him late last year. He didn’t have a job, and neither did I. Nonetheless I do a lot of hustling. That’s how I manage to make some money to take care of my bills. As for him, he didn’t even have anything at all that brought him money. He said he was trying to start a business but he didn’t have the starting capital.

Out of kindness, I lent him money to start a small business. Unfortunately, the business didn’t do well. That’s because he involved his friends. He kept coming to me to borrow money to keep the business afloat. At first, I wanted to prove that I supported his dreams. So I kept giving him whatever money he asked to borrow. 

When I eventually ran out of cash, I accepted that the business was a lost cost. I told him, “I don’t have anything more to give to resurrect this dying business.” That was when I saw that he possessed other sides. 

I was loving and kind toward this man. I stood by him because I believed in his potential. I wanted to see him rise and shine. Unbeknownst to me, he only saw me as a stupid girl he could milk dry. When the money stopped flowing he started hitting me. He abused me verbally as well.  

Whenever I tried to advise him, he would boldly tell me I wasn’t his mother. He would tell me, “I knew how to live my life as a man before you came along. So don’t tell me what to do.” After a year of enduring this, I asked myself; “What am I still doing in this relationship? Why am I punishing myself for this man who doesn’t even listen to me?” It became clear then that we were walking completely different paths. So I ended things.

Since then, he hasn’t left me alone. He bombards me with texts and calls. Sometimes he threatens to kill me. “You are mine alone. So if I can’t have you, no one else should,” he would say. 

Other times, he is less violent. Instead of threats, he only insults and calls me all sorts of names. Whatever he does, I do my best to ignore him. I thought that would make him go away but it appears to only aggravate his anger

This guy went as far as framing me to the police. He accused me of stealing his money. He told lies that he was the one working hard to support me, only for me to betray him.

I cried when I thought of how much I had sacrificed for him. And how I stood by him through thick and thin, only to be repaid with lies. Thankfully, I managed to gather proof of everything and cleared my name. However, there are people in my neighborhood who believed his lies. I didn’t bother worrying about what they thought of me because I knew they were jealous of me.

Then, I discovered the truth—it was he who had stolen from me. His accusations were just a cover-up for what he had done.

Here’s how it happened: when we were still together, he used to visit my home often. He knew almost everything about me, including how I managed my finances and where I kept my money. One day, while I wasn’t home, he came by and asked the kids where I was. They told him I wasn’t around. 

He lied to them and said I had sent him to get something from my bedroom. That’s when he took everything from me. All the money I had saved.

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I had been saving for a lucrative business I planned to invest in with a friend. I kept the money in my room because I was ready to hand it over to my friend. Sadly, when the time came for me to give her the money I discovered that it was gone. He took it all and left me with nothing. I am back to zero. It feels like my life is over.

The most painful part is that I didn’t contribute to household bills because I thought the business would pay off. I asked my mother to cover the expenses for me. “I will repay you everything when I start earning profits,” I promised. I didn’t even buy Christmas clothes for my child because I believed January would bring a better life for all of us. But now it’s all gone.

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He even told me that if I want my money back, I have to take him back. I’m too scared to report him to the police, even though I have recordings as proof. I fear he’ll end my life. That’s because when we were together, he used to beat me black and blue whenever I tried to hold him accountable for his actions.

I feel crushed, hurt, and completely defeated. I’m depressed and overwhelmed by this pain. I feel like a failure; like I’ve let everyone down. I just don’t know how to move forward.

— Keeya

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