He’s our parish priest—a Catholic father and a very good friend of mine. We talk both in church and outside of church. When I don’t come to church, he calls and asks why. When I don’t go for communion, he asks me about the demons I’m battling. Sometimes after church, I stay in his office all day until late in the afternoon.
Because of all he does for me, I started developing feelings for him. Not only that, but I also wanted him to know and act on those feelings. I would always position myself at the front during Mass, where he could see me. I would lock eyes with him during the service, doing everything to let him know that my feelings for him were not ordinary.
But at some point, I came to my senses and realized it wasn’t right. I decided to distance myself from him. I started going to church without letting him see me. When I went for communion, I chose the other priest. Right after church, he would call and ask where I was. I would tell him I had to rush home because of an emergency.
He caught on to what was happening and asked what was wrong. I stayed on the phone with him for over an hour, but I couldn’t bring myself to tell him the truth. All I said was, “I’m fine. I’ve just been busy lately.” He pressed further, saying I could trust him with anything. The more he pushed, the more I found him romantic. I told him, “I’ll come around when everything is fine.”
But lately, he’s been calling me more often than he used to. He tells me he’s praying for me to overcome my demons. He encourages me to pray as well. And then he concludes with, “If you think I’m part of the problem, you can say it.”
It’s Not God’s Law For A Man To Apologize To A Woman
At this point, there’s no cutting him off because he won’t allow it. Should I tell him the truth? Maybe if he knows, he can help me pray the devil in me away. On the other hand, I feel like telling him would be giving him too much information. Maybe he wouldn’t see me the same way anymore, and that could create a whole new problem.
What should I do? Tell him? Or not?
—Agnes
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Better tell him. Because such feelings that you have for him should be over come with prayers. He his a priest and can not marry, but falling in love in a romantic way his a crime. Avoid God wrath oh…..
When you bare your feelings to him, you set yourself free for any eventuality, which is better than bottling them in. Whatever happens after, you have control of it.
This is a pure spirit of lust that has gotten in to you andnyou are also tempting him i grew up in the parish they were also nice boys and you would ask yourself why they chose such work but when you are praying and understand the bible you will know that that sin is greater than most sins that are listed and its not right you need to change a church before you even stop praying all in all youbare a human being and so is he but he is different please stop attending there he might also be pushing you to say things so that he finds his its not entirely your fault he is not supposed to befriend you that much its not right he must do that to more women and persuade them that its okay some Christians are the devils themselves.
The Bible NEVER forbid anybody from marriage but catholic set a trap that catches them frequently.
Go and fvck him for all i care
You are also another one and if she follows your advice, you have also actively participated
Besides celibacy is also in the bible, Paul lived a celibate life of no marriage which shows that the priests are not doing anything outside the bible by being celibate or not marrying. You should go and read your bible and ask God to help you understand before you talk nosense
Not really. Damaluk is right up to a point. The Bible doesn’t make celibacy a requirement for priesthood. Peter who was the first pope was a married man. There were also married popes and bishops up till around the 8th-10th centuries. In fact, one of the requirements for a bishop in the Bible is that he should be the husband of one wife. That’s why priests in other denominations like the Eastern Orthodox church and the Russian Orthodox church are married. It was also one of issues that sparked the rise of Protestantism. The celibacy requirement that is imposed on Catholic priests is extra biblical and based on nothing more than Paul’s personal preferences. But having said that, fornication still remains a sin. It is just sad that Catholicism places its priests in a position where they have to choose between serving God and finding love. As is seen from many other Christian denominations, pastors’ wives serve as helpmates in the ministry, often playing vital roles outside their husbands’ responsibilities. They just put unnecessary strictures on their priests which has ended up causing a rather higher rate of sexual sins amongst their priest than in any other denomination. Even though popular Pentecostal pastors often commit adultery, at least it’s extremely rare to hear of them sexually abusing children or engaging in homosexual behaviours. All the Catholic church does is put unnecessary temptation in the way of their priests.
And if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a large millstone hung around his neck…..Matthew 18.6
An anointed Catholic priest is “taken”. Just move on for your own sake.
What you’re going through is not a sin, at least let the devil rest
tell him your feelings, he may advise you or change his mind to marry you
Please Paul lived a celibate life after divorce, when he was in Christ
I know most catholic priests have a secret relationship but don’t fall prey
It depends on where you stand,thus:
if you know he can handle it in a mature way that will help both of you
Or
He’ll use it to lead you on to fornicate.
Which ever way, you are working on quenching the evil flame and that’s the best so don’t tell him anything and maintain your distance until he sees you are not coming back to the friendship that put you in the bad state.
All the best