I’ve been following this page for almost three years now and I have honestly learned a lot. I didn’t think I would bring my story here but hear I am. I feel so overwhelmed that the only place I I can think of going to vent is this page.

I am a God-fearing twenty-seven-year-old Christian woman. I have often been told that I have a kind heart. These are the traits I have heard men list they want in an ideal partner. Yet I don’t have any man to call my own.

Growing up, a lot of men came my way but I was picky. I took my time to study them before making a decision about them. Despite being open and honest with everyone I chose to commit to, they still found ways to hurt me.

I dated a man for almost three years. I was his biggest cheerleader. I supported him when he had nothing. I didn’t earn much at the time but I still gave him money from my little.

Then two years into our relationship, he stood for Assembly elections. He didn’t have money for the campaign but he had me. I supported him with my savings. In case you are wondering if he doesn’t have family, he does. They were in the picture but they didn’t help him in any way. It was all me.

Thankfully, all our efforts paid off. He won the elections. Out of excitement, he decided to hold a Thanksgiving event. He didn’t have money but once again he had me. I stepped up and catered the event all by myself. I cooked and served 250 people. I made local drinks and served them too. His sisters were present but they were too busy chatting to lend me a helping hand. The community folks who promised to help also didn’t show up. But I didn’t abandon him. I did it all alone because of how much I loved him.

Six months later, he changed from the man I used to know. He became abusive and picked unnecessary fights with me. I cooked and did house chores like a married woman, even though I wasn’t. My mom would send me foodstuffs. Only for me to use them to cook for a man who didn’t respect me. He even slapped me because I took his phone, even though he knew my password, and went through my phone whenever it pleased him.

I endured all of this until I got up one day and decided, “Enough is enough. I can’t do this anymore.” I broke up with him and never looked back. My friends tried to convince me to go back to him but I refused. Could you believe that this man got married to someone else after three months?

He didn’t even go peacefully. First, he spread lies to tarnish my image. Nonetheless, I knew I hadn’t done anything wrong so I wasn’t hurt. I did my best to move on.

Along the line, I met an army man who was stingy. Apart from that, he was a terrible communicator. It would take him two weeks to answer my calls and text messages. I tried to make it work but eventually, I left him too.

He came back later to apologize but I wasn’t interested in him anymore. All I could think about was the pain of begging for his attention.

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Throughout this time, men would come into my life, but they weren’t ready for marriage. All they wanted to do was date me for years. At this point, I’m tired of everything relationships.

I have given up on love. It doesn’t favour me but anyone I have ever dated comes running back after they leave. They apologize and try to get back together with me. This is what I don’t understand. If I am that bad then why do they keep coming back? If I am not the problem then why can’t I just find genuine love?

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I completed the university in 2023 and I am currently done with my national service. I thought I would be in a serious relationship leading to marriage by now but here I am without a man. I am so lonely. The most painful part is that I don’t even have a job to keep me busy so I would be distracted from my troubles.

I want to ask the women here who have equally given up on love and are living happy single lives. How did you do it? How did you get past the loneliness to find joy and contentment in your singlehood? Show me the way.

— Joycelyn

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