Angy was a final-year student at the University when a mutual friend introduced us. She is a beautiful young woman. The first thought that run through my mind when I first saw her was, “This is a cute girl with a cute ass.” I wanted to be with her. And I happen to be the kind of man who goes after what I want.
I did not love her but I courted her until I won her heart. My intention was to grow to love her along the way. When I finally asked her to be my girlfriend she said yes. She was madly in love with me by then. Sadly, I still wasn’t in love with her by then.
She did everything in her power to make me happy but I kept finding fault with everything she did. She went above and beyond to keep me but I still didn’t feel a flutter in my chest for her. I appreciated all her best efforts but I wasn’t feeling the love.
As time passed, I thought of ways to let her down easily. I may not have been in love with her but she did not deserve to have her feelings hurt. Every excuse I thought of didn’t seem gentle enough. So I eventually told her that I was traveling. “I am not sure I will return anytime soon. So don’t wait for me. Put yourself out there and if you meet someone who is willing to marry you, give him a chance.” She was heartbroken but she handled it well.
I was sure a breakup was what I wanted. However, after things ended I didn’t feel quite right. I felt like I made a mistake by letting her go. I waited for a few months but my feelings did not change. I wanted her back in my life.
I tried to move on but I couldn’t. So I went to her and told her, “I made a mistake. I shouldn’t have ended things with you. Please, give me another chance to make things right.” I thought she hadn’t moved on so I was confident she would take me back immediately.
To my surprise, Angy told me, “You are too late. I have moved on. I have another boyfriend now.” I did not want to lose her again so I didn’t walk away from her easily. I begged. Scratch that, I groveled. For almost three weeks, I did not budge.
Eventually, I got through to her. She finally listened to my pleas. She told me, “I will give you another chance. But if you mess it up again, I am done. You won’t have another opportunity to get close to me.” That’s how she left her other boyfriend and took me back.
We’ve had a peaceful relationship until recently. I started thinking about marrying her. So I asked her questions about her past that I never bothered with before. “How many men have you been with?” I asked her. She got shifty all of a sudden. She shrugged and said her past shouldn’t matter because it was another time of her life.
I did not relent. I kept probing until she finally asked, “When you ask how many men I have been with, what specifically do you want to know?” I told her, “I am only asking about your body count.” She was unwilling to disclose this information to me at first, but this is a woman I was planning to spend the rest of my life with. I had to know everything before we would proceed.
I would have taken it calmly if she had told me she had slept with three men. However, seven is too big a number for me to overlook. The moment she mentioned the number I felt my interest in her slowly disappearing.
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I know some people will tell me that her past is her past. Or that I shouldn’t hold her accountable for things she did before she met me. Well, I don’t buy that. I don’t think women should live irresponsible lives when they are young and then expect to get married to a responsible man who will give them a decent life. It’s not fair.
Trust me on this, the higher a person’s body count, the easier they lose their ability to bond with their partners. So no one should come and accuse me of being immature. I am only concerned that the woman I want to marry has such a high body count.
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I am asking the men and women here who share my values and ideologies, will you settle down with a partner who has been with seven or more people? I am not saying she should have been a virgin when we met. As stated earlier, I wouldn’t have had a problem if there were only three people. But now that the number is higher than that, it gives a certain impression about her.
Apart from this issue, she is a good woman. She is honest to a fault. She gets along well with the people in my life. And she supports me in all aspects of my life. I know she will make me happy if we get married. I just can’t shake off the knowledge of her past lovers. What do I do? Please, I will appreciate your counsel.
—Stephen
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Lol.. Seven body count is practical still a virgin at her age hahaha… 17 year olds have far more body counts than this… My guy chill, I thought the number was in excess of 25. Seven is still on the good side
It’s like you dunno what you want ooooo chairman. If you don’t think you can’t marry her just because of her body count, tell her and stop wasting her time so she can move on. You’re just oozing childish vibes my guy and it is not on
Stephen you stated she is a good woman but y do you want to throw her away based on her body count. To me her body count is even smaller compared to others. My dear you can’t judge a person based on the number of body counts she has . You can’t play with her emotions. You are here saying, she should have been responsible I do agree with you. But not everyone is lucky to find sincere people to love them so they fall pray to the words of others especially women. You men are funny you have a body count of more than 10 and still want to find Eno Mary. And expect her to accept you irrespective of your body counts but you can’t do same for a woman with more body counts. My brother clap for her 👏 for not even making it up to ten. If you know what it’s good you will do everything to keep and have her. Every good person has a but on him or her. Her being truthful is more than enough. A truthful person is a true person. You claim you go after what you want but I don’t see you as such. Its like you have gone out and has seen a pair of quality fine shoes but because of its untidiness you won’t buy it. My brother someone will see the same shoes and buy it. Go home wash and polish it. My dear same goes for your woman. You don’t throw away something good because of a little dust ,tear etc you rather make something new out of it or repair it because you know it’s worth.
my guy you have used the machine before so you also part of the number just accept her the way she is because we all have exes in our life
Ghana IS a funny country lol. only 7 people slept with her at her age and you are crying, in my country a 24 years old girl cant count the number of guys that has slept with her.
Sex is overrated! What do you want? A wife or a sex partner. Don’t waste her time and emotions. She deserves better. This is a woman who you dumped and yet she agreed to come back even though she had moved on to a new partner. I’m sorry to break it to you but you are selfish and immature. You are here seeking validation for something you know is wrong. I’m afraid I don’t share “your values and ideologies” and as you can see neither do the people who have bothered to comment so far. I think you will be doing her a great favor if you leave her to find someone more deserving than you because you will judge her by “your values and ideologies” and make her life miserable!
Forget her body counts, Do you know that of the one you’ll meet again ? Someone had 41, but she is married today.
Don’t forget you are also part of her irresponsible lifestyle..you are one of her wrong choice she made,if you think she’s not a good woman because of her body count then ask yourself what led you back into her life again..I wonder why some men are so selfish 🙄..what is your body count in the first place?..you men want us to accept you despite your body count but can’t do the same when the table turns…A lady can be with a man who has a higher body count than her and she will never judge him…What annoys me the most is they have the habit to justify the fact that is right for men to have more body counts than women as if they have blood running through their bodies and women has water🙄
You be foolish guy was. Who told you you’re a responsible man. All your moves show how selfish you are. You don’t deserve your girlfriend. You left her initially with a foolish excuse of you not loving her and always finding fault with her. Who told you you’ve changed? You’re still in the same business after she mistakenly left her boyfriend and came back to an ass of a man like you. Then you come here showing your bizarre face and adding this dumb question. Jimii, You don’t deserve this girl!
I’ll quickly tell your girl to avoid you like a plague if I knew her. You’re not worthy of being with her 😡😡😡😤😤😤
How hypocritical. What is your body count?. After you have used her, you want to use this lame excuse to dump her. You don’t deserve her. It is the likes of you who have made her have that number of body count. I wish I knew her, I would have told her everything you have said here. Let her go and stop wasting her time. Unless your conscience is telling you that you are selfish, immature and wicked.
As a fact that you are not a virgin and doesn’t want to marry a virgin, her body count shouldn’t be a concern.
people who always think about the past find it difficult to succeed, she might be a good life partner, forget the body count and concentrate on her potentials.
you chopped and dumped her and still her body count to be three!
Are going to marry the body count?,she will be good in bed you will also say because she has high body count,let her go becos you will use it againt her.i if you love her body count is natin.
Please what’s your body count too?
Mr body count, Mr ideology well done sir. In this day and age, you found a woman who loves you to the point that she is totally honest with you, which you even acknowledge and you say weytin. Please let her go so a more deserving man can marry her. Next time you will meet a retired slay queen who has also mastered the act of lies and pretence. I’m sure you will get you only 3 body count from her. You are one of the men that makes women lie. You still don’t love this lady that’s a fact. Stop wasting her time. When you meet the one you will be smitten with, her body count won’t come to mind. Menko te a, you can’t live an irresponsible life and expect a responsible man to marry you. Do you have any idea what some honourable men not just responsible marry? A beg shift