I grew up in a Christian home. All my values are based on strong Biblical principles. I was a good girl in every sense of the word. There were things I saw others do that I knew I wouldn’t do. I was all about living a life that is pleasing to God.

Little did I know that life has a way of steering us down roads we never imagined. Somehow I have found myself caught in a web of things I had vowed never to do.

One of these forbidden things for me is that I would never date a married man. I never thought anything in this world would push me to a point where I would defy my own rules.

It started when I met two married men who wouldn’t stop pursuing me. This wasn’t what I had planned for my life, but their persistence wore me down. One of them intrigued me more than the other. His name is Kojo.

Honestly, I wasn’t sure I wanted to get involved with him until I received a call one day. It was from his wife. She warned me sternly, “Whatever you have going on with my husband, put an end to it.” That was what got my attention.

I know that her call should have deterred me from pursuing anything with him. I should have discouraged his attention even. But I didn’t. I promised her I would stay away from him but her warning had the opposite effect on me. It made me want him.

I remember the day I agreed to give him a chance. I was scared but I was also intrigued. For someone who was venturing into a whole new world I had no business going into, I didn’t even start with one married man. I ended up with the two men who wooed me.

Between the two of them, I found myself falling deeply in love with the man whose wife had warned me, Kojo. I liked everything about him. He treated me well too. When it came to the bedroom he was something else. He knew how to satisfy me in ways I didn’t think were possible.

Things with the other man weren’t the same. I played the part of a mistress but I wasn’t invested in him. His size didn’t compare to Kojo’s, and my feelings for him never reached the same level.

As time passed, I became fully immersed in this game. I was a side chick in two relationships but my heart only belonged to one man. I was sure he loved me too. I even asked him to make me his second wife but that conversation didn’t go anywhere.

Then my world crashed two years into the relationship. I caught him cheating on me with another woman. I couldn’t believe my Kojo would do such a thing after everything we shared.

The most painful part is that he seems ready to move on from me. I have become nothing more than history to him. Unlike me, the other woman is new and shiny so she is the one who has him now.

Maybe I should have seen it coming. There were signs but I didn’t pay attention. Or I just didn’t think we would get to a point where he would leave me for someone else. If I knew, I wouldn’t have ignored the petty arguments, the growing disrespect, and the subtle changes in his behaviour.

I knew something was off. That he wasn’t the man I had fallen in love with. But I loved him so much that I didn’t want to cause any problems between us. So I chose to ignore everything that was going wrong with us. I guess love overrides common sense.

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Well, he broke up with me officially. I am heartbroken. This is not someone I want to lose. I’m desperate enough to try and do anything to get him back. Right now I have a plan.

I want to confess everything to his wife. I will tell her, “Although you warned me to stay away from your husband, I didn’t listen. Now I am in love with him but he doesn’t want me anymore.” Then I will beg for her forgiveness and expose the new side chick to her.


Maybe if I help her seek revenge against this new woman, she’ll forgive me. Maybe she’ll even help me convince her husband to take me as his second wife.

It’s a wild plan, I know, but this is where I am now. I am clinging to the hope of salvaging something out of this mess I’ve created.

— Gillian

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