There’s this man I would like to marry because of my father. He’s rich and is ready to give me the world if I accept to be with him. He has come to see my father and my dad wants me to accept him as soon as possible. He’s a fifty-seven-year-old man whose first child is even older than I am. He has been married before. His wife died three years ago and he has four children.
I’m only twenty-six. I have a boyfriend I’ve been dating for the past two years now. He’s a good guy and has dreams of making it big in life. At his age, he has three companies he’s nurturing. The future is bright and I would have loved to be part of his future.
My father’s problem is poverty. He sees this man as the channel out of poverty, not for himself, but for me and my other siblings. My dad has suffered to take care of us. His suffering became worse when my mom died but he didn’t give up. He soldiered on to take care of us through school and through life. I will do anything for my dad including marrying this old man just to make my dad happy.
My issue is, I don’t love this man. I like him as a person. He’s very honest and straightforward. He doesn’t behave like an old person. He doesn’t even dress like one and I like that about him. They say love grows. I want to believe that and marry him based on that assertion, hoping it wouldn’t be long before love shines in my heart for him.
I want to know if I’m making the right decision. It’s hard for me now but it will make my dad happy. I want to go all out, breaking my boyfriend’s heart including mine and marry this man. But tell me, will I regret it? Those who didn’t marry for love but love came along the way, how did you do it? How long did it take for love to find a place in your heart?”
—Veronica
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Vero I have this question for you. Do you think the old man had his wealth on a silver platter? The answer is no he started small like your boyfriend. He took people’s advice and dedicated himself to the growth of his business. It was never easy .but he came this far. Don’t you think what your dad is doing the same was done to the old man 🤔. I guess his father in law wanted his wife to get marriage to someone with money. Yet his father in law gave him a chance. The same can be done to your boyfriend. Instead of seeing the man as a way out of your poverty, y don’t you you send your boyfriend to him to learn the tricks to his success. By the time you realise it your boyfriend’s business will strive and that where you can get married to him and have your happily ever after because of the love you have for him. Don’t get married to the Oldman because if you do you will loose yourself in the end.
If your father’s concern is about YOUR poverty and not his, then go with your boyfriend. Show commitment to the one you told that you love. Let that statement mean something.
Perhaps you and your boyfriend can take a loan and give it to your father as an indication of good things to come. You can’t make your father happy when you yourself are not happy. How well do you know the “old man” ? The future will be more predictable with bf.