My mom died when I was seventeen years old. My dad remarried when I was twenty-one. I had my reservations about the woman he married but I didn’t make it known in any way. Immediately she entered the house, she started making me feel like I was a secondhand citizen in my own father’s house.
She tried to give me the hardest job and escalated my little mistakes as if they were the worst mistakes ever made. At that time my dad had a voice so whenever she reported me to him and I explained my part of the story, my dad understood me. He always asked me to respect the woman as my mom and I did my best to do that. But no matter how hard I tried, this woman didn’t see eye to eye with me.
She started having her own kids and by the time I was in the university, she had had three kids of her own. Things became worse but I treated her as my mom. Even when she was unfair, I tried to respect her authority.
We live in a four-bedroom house. They live in one room, the kids also live in one and I live in one and the other room is being used as a storeroom. After my national service, I came back home trying to find a job. Currently, I don’t have a job. My dad is also on pension and she’s the one managing the store my dad opened for her. I don’t take anything from her or my dad. I do small jobs around to earn a living.
Because of the financial situation of the house, this woman came to tell me I should move to the room of the kids so she would rent my room out for money. It didn’t sit well with me so I asked my dad about it. He said he didn’t know anything of that sort. I brushed the woman off until she brought someone to the house showing him my room as the room she intended to rent to him.
It turned into a fight. I was fed up so I told her my mind. My dad didn’t say a thing. Obviously, he’s also tired. Because I didn’t agree, she told me, “Then you’re going to pay rent for living in that room. It’s my husband’s house and I have the power to decide.”
She’s making my life miserable so I want to retaliate.
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I’ve told my dad about it and all he said was, “Do what you want. I’m tired of you two.” I want to pack her things and throw her out. She can also go to her father’s house. At this point, I don’t think my dad will bother. I want to know the legal implications if I pack her things and throw her out. It’s not going to be friendly. It’s going to be a huge fight and I anticipate she might bring the police in.
I’m tired of her antics and I want to put my feet down as a man since my dad is not doing anything about it. Do I have a case?
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Yes and No. In the absence of your father’s instructions to the contrary, both of you have a right to the house as well as your half-siblings. This means that she cannot throw you out and neither can you. Of course as an adult you have to contribute to the payment of utilities. Report the matter to the nearest district court, they will activate the ADR and summon her for possible resolution.
Ah, what are you trying to say? That because he’s an adult male, he no longer has a right to his father’s property? Didn’t you read the part where it says he’s still looking for a job? He doesn’t have the means, should he hurriedly pack out and sleep outside whilst his rightful property is denied him? Is marriage by force? Or you’re the woman’s relative?
Has it even occurred to you that his late mum even sacrificed more to build this house before this woman came in to enjoy?
Anthony, please involve your mother’s family to come and face her. She has no right at all. You have a right to live there for as long as you please. Even after you’re married, you can rent it out and keep the money. It’s yours. I know people who are currently comfortable in life because of properties they acquired. Report her to your mother’s sisters ASAP!
Afterwards report her to her pastor too. You should also consider Sammy’s advice.
All the best!
Ah but all along I thought you were a lady oo…. A young man and you are letting an old woman do that to you? Man sit up!
You are a adult man. Move out of your father’s house. Some men of your age are already married and with their families already. You cannot be competing with your mother for your father’s house. You are on the wrong on this one!
Did you hear the part where he’s still looking for a job. Do you thing everyone has things on a silver platter? Be reasonable