I have been friends with her for the past ten years. She is an incredibly gorgeous Northern girl. I am usually invisible when I am walking next to her. She gets all the attention and I don’t even get a glance in my direction. With Bernice’s beauty, she attracts all the best men. In our period of friendship, she has had two relationships. She is currently in the third one. Those two guys were crazy about her and wanted to marry her. The only problem was their families. The first man’s family did not want their son to marry a Northerner. When I saw this, I got close to the family and said lots of nasty things about her to them. This only solidified their stance against their wish to get married. In the end, her five-year-old relationship with this man came crumbling down.
The second man’s family also did not want their son to marry from Bernice’s tribe. They had dated for two years when the issue of marriage came up. When I realized that this guy’s family didn’t like her as well, I added my own concocted stories to the fire of their tribal hate and ruined the relationship. In all this, my best friend has no idea I was working against her relationships. Why was I doing this? She gets everything first before I do. And for once, I wanted to be the first to do something. I wanted to get married before she did. So I thought I would even the playing field by ruining her good relationships.
She started dating boyfriend number three just recently. We are best friends so we talk about everything. She told me about how amazing this guy is. Every good thing he did for her, she told me. As usual, this new development got me jealous. So I started sowing seeds of doubt in her mind. When she says, “Jeffter is so amazing. I can’t believe someone like him was single till I came along.” I would respond with, “Haven’t you learned anything from your past relationships? Men seem amazing until it’s time for them to choose you. That’s when they start making excuses. For all you know, this Jeff guy has another girlfriend. You know what they say about men in his profession. They have women in every town they go to.”
At first, she would laugh off my cynism but I was relentless. “Sis, all I am saying is that you shouldn’t believe everything a man tells you. He would kiss another woman and come tell you ‘I love you’ with the same mouth. Question everything he says until you are sure it’s the absolute truth.” As time went on, my words sunk deep into her heart and took root. I am not proud to admit this but soon enough, she started getting insecure in the relationship.
Initially, she was willing to wait for three or four years so the guy would put himself together and marry her. But after filling her head with doubts, she started asking questions. “What if I wait all this while and he doesn’t marry me? I would have wasted more years with yet another man.” She started picking fights with the guy and created problems for them. Every time she reported that things were not going well, I would sympathize with her but rejoice secretly in my heart.
Eventually, the guy got fed up with her constant nagging and broke up with her. When she told me they broke up I experienced unexplainable joy. However, my joy was short-lived when they got back together a few days later. I was furious but I pretended to be happy for her.
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We both love football so the other day we made plans to hang out with three of our male friends at a bar to watch the Chelsea and Madrid game. Before we could go to the bar, one of the guys suggested we all come to his place instead. I got there before Bernice did. And I noticed she was drunk when she arrived. “We didn’t go to the bar and yet you are drunk?” I asked her. That was when she started telling me she and Jeff were having problems. “Take my phone,” she said, “Call him and tell him I am sorry. I love him and I miss him so much. Tell him I am horny, maybe that will get his attention.” I took her phone and walked out but I did not call her boyfriend. I rather opened his contact and saved his number and email address on my phone. Then I came back and told my best friend that the guy declined all the calls I made with her number.
Then I sat next to her and sent the guy an email. I used my email account but I made it sound like Bernice. It was a breakup message. I even used the name Bernice saved his name as, so it would seem like the email was truly coming from her. After the game, I took her to my place. When she fell asleep I took her phone and went to their WhatsApp and broke up with the guy over there too. I then called him and hung up when he picked up. Then I blocked his number and blocked him on WhatsApp too. I had successfully ended their relationship and that made me happy.
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Just recently, she discovered that the guy’s number was blocked on her phone and unblocked him. It pained me when she mentioned that they are talking again. My only consolation was that the subject of the email didn’t come up. It’s either the guy didn’t receive it or he is yet to open it. If she finds out about it she will know that I sent it and she would put everything else together. I know I should be worried but that is not my concern right now. My friend is always sad these days. She tells me, “I am in a relationship but I feel so lonely. What can I do to fix things?” This seemingly harmless game I started playing with my beautiful friend has taken a terrifying turn. And that’s why I am here today.
She has started drinking heavily and it scares me. She always goes to a bar Jeff introduced her to and takes shots. She is sitting right next to me as I write this story but she is too intoxicated to even notice that I am using her Facebook account to send this. All I wanted to do is get married before her, not turn her into an alcoholic. Now I want to come clean and tell her everything but I don’t know how to go about it. I also want to send the guy another email and confess everything to him so he would give my friend a fresh start. I didn’t mean for things to go this far, and now I feel bad. How do I make it right?
–Kyeiwaa
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Eiii… with friends like these.. who needs enemies. So over the past 10 years you have not found anyone? How would you feel if the tables were turned and she also confessed to sabotaging you. What assurance do you have that if u marry first, you will be happy. U will then envy her husband, her children,her successes. If you are truthful to yourself, you are not this lady’s friend. Confess and leave her life., start over. Otherwise your just being demon in her life
You are Kyeiwaa indeed
Just know table do turn
You are very wicked……..how could you do this to your friend.karma will find you.
Come clean with her and ask God for forgiveness.
Ask God to give you a clean and pure heart, otherwise you will end up badly.
You were never friends. You were her competitor in disguise but you lost ever since you started that game because she’s and will always be ahead of you. Have you asked yourself why she always get the best of everything while you live with pains?? Karma is not yet invited and you’re already running. She will always be ahead of you. She will marry first, give birth first, she’ll do all the good you want to do, she will be the first to do it and rub it on your face. I won’t insult you but KARMA is warming up for your payback.
Friends are wicked ooo
You’ll look at the face of someone who trusts you with their life and destroy her behind her back….owww noooooo
What is marriage that you want to get married before her. So long as she has good intentions for you and you always find ways to destroy her sisssssss it’ll not be well with you. Come clean and start asking for forgiveness from God
This is not to judge you but you’re an ignorant witch(look out for the meaning before drawing a conclusion on my statement) , not the kind that fly at night and eat human flesh but you just don’t want anything good going on for anyone, especially someone you call a best friend. I bet you don’t know what that means. Forgive my words but you’re likely to be one and yet you don’t know. You want to marry before her and then what? Have babies, and then what? You don’t deserve to be called a friend. Better tell her everything you’ve done and be ready for whatever the consequences and go to church for deliverance na this one de3 I don’t know what else to say to you.
My dear what goes round comes round. Report your self to her immediately. The world has rules ,if you hurt someone innocent it will also hurt you badly.Do you know why people never noticed you, it was because they saw the evil in you that’s why. The evil has hidden your true beauty . If you were happy for her genuinely then someone might have looked your way. You were doing all these in name of marrying first and did you end getting married first? No You didn’t after going through all these stress to destroy someone’s relationship. Am sure you have been going to church praying to God to help you marry early but you are still not married that’s because God listen to one with a clean heart .you have time to confess to her, please go to her boyfriend and do same. BECAUSE IF YOU DON’T WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO YOU WILL BE WORSE. GOOD LUCK.
Kyeiwaa indeed I have goosebumps all over
Your name alone tells it all
Madam kyiewaa you really need deliverance.You’re very wicked and people like you make others disbelief friendship and sisterhood. Find your way out of your friends life you devil
You are Kyeiwaa indeed, you wicked soul. leave her alone.
Simply a witch who would one day be visited with Karma. The evil women leaves after them in years! Repent and Confess wai! Some friends are Cobra ampa!