I’m 20 years old. I have two children. I was 18 when I had my firstborn. My youngest is currently six months old. Each of my babies has their own father.
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None of my baby daddies are deadbeat. They are both present in the lives of their children, and in my life as well. What I mean is, I am still dating the two men.
One of the men knows he is not the only one I am in love with, but he loves me enough to stay. The other one thinks I am done with the other man and he is the only man in my life. I know you are itching for me to disclose which of the men is clueless about this love triangle. For the sake of protecting my anonymity, I will keep that information to myself. Just understand that one knows they are two, but the other thinks it’s just him.
Now this is my problem. I am fully aware that I cannot be with the two men forever. Eventually, I would have to choose the one I want to settle down with.
I love the father of my first child very much. I would choose him to be My Forever in a heartbeat. But, it is the father of my second child who has shown me the depths of his love. Although he has a girlfriend, he cannot bear to let me go. I love him too just as much.
He takes care of me in ways I didn’t know it was possible for a man to take care of a woman. Emotionally, he is my support. Physically, he always shows up for me. Financially, he makes sure I don’t lack anything. As a lover, he brings me unimaginable satisfaction.
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My only problem with him is that he has another woman. While my first man doesn’t express his love in such grand gestures, I know I am his only woman. And that makes me feel safe and secure in the relationship.
Each man has a unique way of showing their love for me. This is why my heart wants them both. I know I sound greedy, that’s why I want to break up with one of them and just stick to one man. I just don’t know which of them to walk away from.
—Aisleen
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The entitlement: “My only problem is he has another woman”
You might be such a gem! I don’t envy you at all and I think no one else will.
I only pity the one who doesn’t want to let you go knowing all that he knows.
Your first baby daddy is being greedy and selfish. He knows the only way to keep you hooked is to be kind to you despite knowing he won’t end up marrying you or making you the sole lady of his life. Man 2 is being honest with you . There is no manipulation here. The fact that you are his only woman is the greatest gesture one can think of. It is the deepest level of respect a man can give you. Man 1 has no such respect for you . I will encourage you to be with man 2. Use your head no your heart.
Hhhmmm at just twenty what a shame rubbish
They’re both using you, if you wish to know the truth.
You’re only trying to eat your cake and have it. You think you’re playing smart but I assure you that it’s a very dangerous game! At 20 you’re too young to live like this. Get your life together before you involve baby daddy 3
It seems that you’re enjoying the multiple relationships, so get more babies from different guys and blame ur ancestors later on
Keep being a whore in the name of I love them both or they both love me. Whichever way.
20 years and you spew such rubbish with no sense of guilt and conscience.
Very soon you will be visiting prayer camps for a husband because with your mindset, I see a third baby daddy coming and none marrying you in the end.
Don’t blame your household witches because this is not then but yourself.
Break up with both, wait for some 3yrs to mature before thinking about marriage. Stop using your coochie as a means of survival in the name of I’m dating both of them