I was one of those girls who dreamed of having a family someday. I wanted the magazine-cover family photos. I wanted it all; a good husband, beautiful well-behaved kids, and a nice house. When I envisioned myself as a grown woman, I was not a single lady. I was a wife and a mum building a thriving career for myself.
I didn’t just dream, I worked toward it. I stayed in school, read my books, excelled in my exams, and made something of myself when it came to my career life. The love life on the other hand, did not take the straight and narrow path. I was careful with the men I gave my heart but that did not make them careful with my heart.
I knew what I wanted; a god-fearing man who wanted a family like I did. Someone who would be willing to meet me halfway and make the relationship work. At first, they all seemed to have and want what I wanted. However, I would start dating them only to realize they were looking out for their own interests in the relationship. All attempts to get us to be on the same page proved futile. When our differences became irreconcilable, they left without saying goodbye. This has led to several failed relationships in my history.
How many frogs should a girl kiss before she finally meets her prince? How many heartbreaks can the human heart endure? At some point, a person gets tired of trying, hoping, and believing that there is a perfect match out there. It was when my last relationship ended that I got to this point.
I told myself, “I am done with men and any attempt to find love. I am an adult with a stable job. Instead of waiting for Mr. Right, I would rather give birth and raise my child as a single mother.” I was sure that this was the right course of action for me.
Along the line, I relocated to a new apartment. While I was settling in, I made friends with one of my neighbours. Her name is Serwaa. Serwaa has a brother called Kay. I met him a few weeks after I moved in. “Who is your friend?” He asked her as he ogled me. When Serwaa saw the look on his face she shook her head and said, “No don’t go there.” She then turned to me and said, “Whatever he tells you, don’t mind him. He is married with three children.” I nodded politely and said okay.
The moment Serwaa turned away, he took my phone and dialed his number. I didn’t think anything would come of it but things started changing when we started talking. I grew to like him. I knew about his marriage but the heart speaks a language the brain does not always approve of.
When he proposed love to me I could have said no but I kept telling myself, “What’s wrong if I date him? He is the first man to show interest in me in a very long time.” So now Kay and I are having an affair. His sister doesn’t know anything about it.
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He is a married man but he worships the ground on which I tread. He always shows up whenever I call or need him. The way he dotes on me makes me want more from our relationship than a temporary arrangement. I wish I had more than a boyfriend.
I have had a conversation with him about it. “I want to be a wife even if it means being a second wife,” I said. His response was no. “Why do you want to be a second wife when you can have a man of your own?” He asked. He believes I shouldn’t give up on having a family of my own. That’s why when I proposed to him that we have a baby, he shot it down.
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The thing is, I don’t even wish to be married to him. He just treats me in a way that makes me wish I had a husband. He also doesn’t want me to get pregnant with his child. However, he refuses to use protection when we have shuperu.
I have also decided not to be on contraceptives. If I get pregnant too, I don’t intend to get rid of it. I am just here leaving things to chance. He doesn’t want me to have his child but if it happens accidentally, I am keeping it. Is it a bad idea? He is the only man who has shown interest in me in a very long time.
— Djansima
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It’s looks as if you don’t know men. You can get pregnant for him and he won’t still leave his wife for you. Stop this stupidity and look for what is yours. The dumbest decision you will ever do is to trap a man by having his child with the idea that he will choose you.The reply Kay gave you shows your position in his life. There might be a man interested in you but him seeing you with Kay will discourage him. Let him go so that you can make room for someone else. Don’t be selfish. If you do so Kay will hate you, you will ruin your life and that of the innocent child .Most importantly you might bring a curse on your future generations. Pray for a man of you own . God used words to creat the universe. You too can manifest your husband and the kind of marriage and kids you wants. Please involve God in every decision you make. A word to the wise is enough.
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You’re sooooo right ma’am
I beg to differ from MaameEfua. From all indications, Kay is a good man. Plus the lady in question has a stable employment. The part about generation curse is a big lie. The very bible Efua and Co are basing to talk about generational curses has several instances of one man marrying two sisters a adding their maids in the mix. Monogamous male-famale relationships are over-rated. Real viral men constitute just 50% of the men in the world.
The moment you get pregnant will be the end of this relationship. The guy will keep off as he doesn’t want to destroy his family. Think of the heartbreak before you decide to conceive. Because it won’t be an accident. You are already planning it.
Thr movement you take in for him will mark the end of whatever you have going on with him. Someone mentioned that he is a good man, what kinda married man leaves his wife and kids and start a sexual relationship with another lady, a lady who’s friends with his sister? He is only showing that side cos he is eating thr cake and still having it. Majority of gals out there arr like the poster. In fact, 8 out of 10 gals out there are currently sleeping with married men for survival and also gain sakes. I’m not going to tell you to abort and dead that mission. In fact. Go ahead and get pregnant for him and watch how you’ll be the one to face it all. Are you that dumb and bot smart enough to know and realize ur position in his life? He is sleeping with you without protection and he doesn’t want you to get pregnant for him cos he love his wife and kids more. How many times will you have to take POSTPILLS? If you think you can trap a man with pregnancy, wake up.
Repent this day and give your life to Christ! Find a partner of your own and have family with him. That you people are doing it without protection scare the shit outta me(although i dont condone any form of illegal sexual relatioship namely fornication, adultery..). I feel for the man’s wife and kids, as well as the unfortunate man that will marry you.
Quiet please! A good man having extra-marital affairs and even doing it raw? Perhaps he’s good man to the greedy parasite who’s bound to contract std, but Kay is definitely a disaster to his wife, children and loved ones. Stop encouraging evil and save the confused girl please.