Whenever I visit her, she serves me food she had prepared for my coming. I love the care and plan she puts in my visit but the food she serves isn’t worth it. She tries but she doesn’t know how to cook. We’ve dated for five months and I’ve eaten every dish she can cook. None is worth the effort she puts in. If I have to be blunt, she’s wasting the ingredients.
My love for her has nothing to do with her cooking ability. She’s a kind woman. You should see her doing food for me. You should listen to her talk about not wasting money, the reason she cooks for me each day I visit her. You should see her with me and you’ll know why I wouldn’t care about her cooking ability.
I’ve tried many means to stop her from cooking; “Babe, I’m coming over. You don’t have to cook. I’ll order something and bring it along.” She’ll convince me not to waste the money and still go ahead and cook.”
“Babe, let’s go out today for some fresh air. We don’t always have to meet in the house.” She’ll tell me to come home and eat first so we don’t spend so much on food.
Sometimes, I don’t tell her I’m coming so she won’t have to cook anything. Those are the days I suffer the worst side of her culinary incapacity. She’ll put what she has in the microwave and heat it for me. The food wouldn’t be totally warm. Cold at the side, warm at the bottom, lukewarm at the top. She gave me some okro stew like that and I ran for three days.
What she hates to hear is, “I’m full today so forget about food.” She would respond. “My mom says if someone visits and refuses to eat, then there’s a problem.”
From the way I see it, there’s no way I can run from her culinary misgivings so I have to tell her the truth. But how do I do it without hurting her feelings? She loves to cook and she thinks she’s good at it. The little times we’ve had to eat outside, she complained bitterly about what we ate. Saying, “You see why I should cook what we eat, this is not well cooked.”
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After every meal, she would ask me, “Did you enjoy it?” Because of her, I’ve turned into a liar.
I don’t have a big problem like that. It’s not my worry that she can’t cook. She loves to do it so she can polish it along the way but how do I bring to her attention that she’s been cooking miracles since we met?
—Jerry
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Just cook when you get to her end. Or simple be Frank with her.
Cooking miracles. Lol. My brother J.J., you have a Nana Konadu case on your hands. You may have to credit yoko gari in future like the famous Jerry did. Tell him specifically what about her cooking does not site well with you. E.g, like the warmed food which was not good. If it is on taste, be specific if the salt is a bit too much or too little. If pepper-tomatoes ratio is usually not okay, say it. Plus there was an article here that addressed how a man handled a beautiful woman who could not cook at all. Buy her a cook book and join her when she is cooking up a miracle for you.
You have to tell her one day, somehow. She’s going to feel really bad but you have to let her know. All the best
The truth hurts, but the truth saves
– Always.