I don’t fall in love easily. It’s not that I don’t put myself out there, I do. It’s just that, it takes a special kind of person to catch my interest. In the rare circumstance that I find that person, I love them with my entire being. I hold on to them so tightly and find it almost impossible to let go when the time comes to say goodbye.
Although I tried dating a few times, I have never been with a man intimately. I have never fallen for men who have requested sex as proof of love. I am saving myself for the right man.
And no man has ever felt so right for me like Joe. I met him when I got a job quite far away from home. Due to the distance, I stay at work on weekdays and return home on weekends.
Joe is my manager at work. He didn’t hide his interest in me right from the moment he met me. Sometimes he would say it as a joke, “I love you so much.”
Other times he would say it seriously, “I want you badly. Agree to be my woman.”
There were days I brushed him off. It didn’t always work though. He got to me sometimes. Slowly, his confessions tugged and gnawed at my resolve. I didn’t realize it until I found myself finally saying yes to him.
We are a couple now. I am crazy about him. The fierceness with which I love him scares me sometimes. I know he is not someone I want to lose.
He wants to marry me but the problem is, he has a baby mama. They have three children together. She had their third child not long ago.
When I found out about it I tried to end the relationship, but it hasn’t been easy. He holds on tightly and refuses to let go.
He is the one my heart wants but my conscience is judging me for being with him. I feel like I am taking him away from the mother of his children.
The only reason they are not married is because of tribal differences. Her father insists his daughter won’t marry outside their tribe.
They’ve tried everything to convince the man but he refuses to budge. He even treats his own grandchildren as if they are outsiders.
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“I kept fighting for her love but I am human. I got tired eventually. That’s why I am moving on,” he said as he explained why he came for me.
I understand him but I don’t think I should be involved in this complicated affair. I am trying to fight it but I haven’t succeeded. Every time I come home, I cry my heart out. I regret falling for him, but I don’t know how to stop loving him.
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I’ve been advised to avoid him, but that’s easier said than done because I work directly under him. He’s the one assigned to train me in the field I’m supposed to handle. How do I stay away from such a person?
I honestly don’t know what to do. What advice would you give me?
—Bronte
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He’s a married man. Please be strictly professional with him . Him having a new born with his baby mama means he still wants her.
And you believe him that the woman’s father refused to consent marriage but he allowed them to be bearing children? The momen you marry him that’s when you will know the truth, that you can’t separate them. Honestly, can’t you find a truly single man for yourself? If u are ready for baby daddy/mama drama go ahead. I have read many threads here where people are regretting falling for single mom/dad. Not interested in reading urs.
My dear I’d advise you back off, fight your feelings for him cus in my opinion he might just be using you to heal his wounded heart, you might be a second option for him. There’s a chance that if you marry him, he’ll still be in love with his BM who he has not 1 not 2 but 3 kids with. because there’s no malice between them except that her father doesn’t approve that’s all …so consider all these n choose you
I think you seriously need to have a rethink and also sit yourself down and have a moment alone. I think that man is “A MARRIED MAN” That the baby mama’s father refused as denied them getting married but they can have 3 kids is something you need to talk to him about it ll cos he recently had a baby and that baby no 3 with her. That says a lot and I strongly believe he is either married to her, planning to or he’s still in love with her.
eeih madam, three children and he says he cant marry her because of tribal differece, please stay away from him. he is a cheat ad you will regret it oe day if you give him the chance.