Four years ago, after seven months of marriage, my husband had an accident and ended up in a wheelchair. He had a spinal cord injury that also affected his sexual ability. He can’t do anything even on a good day when he experiences a flash of erection. His family were very active in his life during the first year of the accident but recently, they are nowhere to be found.

I do everything to care for a husband who is stuck in a wheelchair and only sees the sun when he’s being wheeled around. There’s a house help. But she doesn’t live in. Life has been very stressful and the fact that I didn’t have time to enjoy my marriage always makes me sad. “For better for worse” but the worse came too soon, right at the sunrise of our marriage.

I missed my period last month. The man I’m seeing isn’t running away from the pregnancy but the problem is how to inform my husband that I’m pregnant. Yes, it was unplanned but now that it’s here, I can’t get rid of it when I don’t have any hope for a child with my husband. It’s a dicey and difficult situation I find myself in. How do I tell him? How do I make it easier for him, looking at his situation?

I know I’ve broken part of the vows I took but please be gentle on me. We take such vows with the hope that things wouldn’t be as bad as I find myself in but here I am, with a husband whose family has abandoned on me and who can’t do anything until he’s pushed around. I’m sorry. Deeply sorry but I’m ready to own up to my sins and hope it doesn’t lead to a divorce.

— Jenny  

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