Leonard and I started dating at level 200 in the university. Everything was fine between us but I had to leave the school due to some reasons. After I left, I tried to gain admission to another institution. It was through the process that I met Manuel who offered to help me. Our constant communication brought us close. So close that Manuel asked me to be his girlfriend. I hadn’t met him yet but I liked him enough to accept his proposal.

So I was dating Leonard and Manuel. Leonard is someone who makes me his priority. He is always there for me when I need him. Whether we are having problems or things are peaceful between us, he assures me of his love for me. He is the guy who broke me. Although I regretted giving it to him for the next few days it happened, he was patient with me until I got past it.

While I was home waiting to be admitted into another school, Manuel and I built a connection that wasn’t strong to start with. Nonetheless, I kept pushing for things to work between us. I believed if we had a good relationship, he would help me gain admission.

One thing he did that put me off was his constant talk about shuperu. Every time we talked, he would bring it up. I found this very annoying but I tolerated him. Upon all that I did, I still didn’t get the admission. I was so disappointed. I didn’t want to stay home doing nothing so went back to the university I was with Leonard.

Being physically close to Leonard again reminded me of his love for me. I felt bad for accepting Manuel’s proposal, especially after I didn’t get what I thought the relationship would bring me. The good part about all of it was, that Manuel rarely called or texted me. We could go for two months without talking to each other. I didn’t have a problem with it.

As long as he was a poor communicator, Leo wouldn’t find out about him and get hurt. I was sure that I had everything under control. However, Leonard became uncomfortably possessive. This didn’t bode well for our perfect relationship. This guy would see me talking to guys and get angry, “Who are you talking to? Why are you talking to him? I told you that I don’t want you getting friendly with other men.”

I tried to talk him out of his behavior but he refused to change. At the end of every day he would ask me questions like;

“What did you do today?”

“Where did you go?”

“Whom did you see?”

“What did you people talk about?”

He wanted to know every single detail about my life. This made me uncomfortable and seeing as he wouldn’t change, I started withdrawing from him. How can I be with a man who behaves as if he owns me? This is someone who doesn’t provide for my needs. So why did he think he could treat me like his property? That’s why I stopped talking to him.

During the period I was ignoring Leonard, Manuel showed up again. He told me, “School admissions are out. So you can start applying if you are still interested.” He behaved as if we had always been close and he never ignored me. I acted cold toward him initially, but I was still interested in the school so I had to let my grudge against him go.

We began texting every day and I was beginning to take him seriously. It was a few days to my birthday and we planned to finally meet in person. When the day was getting closer, he didn’t speak about coming around to see me. I was also quiet about it.

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A day to my birthday was a Friday so Leonard came for me and took me to his place just so we could start celebrating my birthday that night. We had a lot of fun, and then we had shuperu. On my birthday I went to the salon to fix my hair, only to receive a call from Manuel. “I am around. I want to see you,” he announced.

I wasn’t particularly excited about the phone call, because I didn’t plan on having him around. However, I went to meet him after I was done with braiding my her. It was quite late so we went to the club. We had such a good time. From there, I took him to a guest house where we spent the night. We had shuperu and spent time talking about a lot of things before he left the next morning.

After he left he called just to ask me; “Why are cheating on me? I am afraid you will give me a disease.” He went on to accuse me of sleeping around. Apart from Leonard, there is no one else so I wouldn’t say I am sleeping around. My question is, how did he know that I had shuperu with someone else the night before I met him? Is there a special thing men do to find out these things? Also, I want to be with Manuel instead of Leonard so what can I do to make him believe that I don’t sleep around? How can I get him to take me seriously?

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—Ellis 

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