He tried to kiss me when he hadn’t proposed to me. I pulled away and asked why he wanted to kiss me. We’d been seeing each other for months. I liked him at first before I came to love him. I was waiting for him to propose but the proposal never came. He would invite me to his house, watch movies and chill all day but he would say nothing.
We went on a date one night. Everything showed he was going to propose. He pulled the chair for me. He stood until I sat before he did. When the date was over, he opened the doors for me while we walked out. He didn’t propose. That was like our fourth date in two months or so. When I got home I asked him, “What’s the point? All this you’re doing.” He answered, “There’s no point. I enjoy your company.” I asked, “So we are friends, right?” He answered, “Sort of.”
I left it like that without being bothered about his chivalry and all the kind things he did for me until that night when he tried to kiss me. He said, “Your lips were calling me so I responded.” I laughed. “My lips have their own voice to call you? Eric, do you like me and you can’t say it? Go ahead. Propose to me and I’ll say yes. I’m not that difficult.”
He laughed my suggestions off and made excuses that didn’t mean anything. I told him, “If you can’t propose then I can’t give you what a girlfriend will give to a boyfriend.” His question was, “Does it even matter? What’s a proposal? What value does it add to a relationship? I might not propose with words but my actions should tell you.”
I’m a woman. I don’t make assumptions when it comes to matters of the heart. Say it. Act it. Show me before I believe. That aside, I love being told about love. I love to hear “I love you” from the one I love. I don’t have to assume, at least not at the initial stages. I pushed him to say it. He told me it wasn’t important. I told him I wouldn’t assume until he made things clear.
What Would You Do For A Friend Who Has 24 Hours To Live?
He’s still here in my life, playing around my heart and making me feel I’m not in his.
I want to know if I’m being unreasonable. I should just understand that he loves me and flow with him? What’s so hard about proposing even when I’ve given him the green light? Looking at his attitude, do you think he’s in for love? Or I’m right to be careful.
–Annette
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You are on the right path. You’ve said any and everything to even prompt him to action. But no! You have done what Napoleon could not do. With the way he’s behaving, I would say loose him!
You could have gone with the flow at the beginning, but now that the issue is out in the open, he has to propose ‘formally’. Infact, at this stage, let him go all the way, marriage proposal, or your are out. Because if you have to force the simpler step out of him, then the future doesn’t look good.
You ever heard actions speak louder than words?
This guy probably doesnt know how to propose he is probably that manly man from the previous generation who think their actions speak for them. Not agewise but he is the kind who will not say it but his actions will speak volumes. Have a heart to heart with him he probably is still working the courage to propose. If you like him back do not loose a good man if you think he is simply because words
I’m happy for Opana, however, I am skeptical about issues like this.
We’ve had situations whereby after months and even years of going out, with no mention of marriage, a guy will ask if he proposed to you, we are both just having a good time, he’d say, and he will be right, if he’s having trouble putting his feelings into words, you can use other ways.
Give him some space, then write him an handwriting letter, or a message on social media, it doesn’t have to be a long epistle, something around how you feel being with him and wanting to have a definition for the relationship, so you wouldn’t go riding into the moon, all on your own…he should feel free to reply via the same way if that’s convenient.
Undefined relationships are not worth it, no matter the actions or gestures being shown to you, because what if, just what if you both are not on the same page?
I remember when Samira Bawumia was asked about how Opana proposed to her
Her response was; The guy didnt even propose.
Today, she is the official wife of the vice president and flag bearer of one of the two largest politial parties in the entire country.
Question: Where are the men who proposed to her before she met Bawumia?
Let learn to pay attention to the right things
The frivolous aren’t getting us anywhere.
PLEASE, WHATEVER YOU DO WITH THIS INFORMATION IS NON OF MY BUSINESS.
Thank you!
I’m happy for Opana, however, I am skeptical about issues like this.
We’ve had situations whereby after months and even years of going out, with no mention of marriage, a guy will ask if he proposed to you, we are both just having a good time, he’d say, and he will be right, if he’s having trouble putting his feelings into words, you can use other ways.
Give him some space, then write him an handwriting letter, or a message on social media, it doesn’t have to be a long epistle, something around how you feel being with him and wanting to have a definition for the relationship, so you wouldn’t go riding into the moon, all on your own…he should feel free to reply via the same way if that’s convenient.
Undefined relationships are not worth it, no matter the actions or gestures being shown to you, because what if, just what if you both are not on the same page?
Listen up! You have done nothing wrong. It’s time to give him the space he needs and let him figure out what he truly wants. If he can’t step up and commit to you, then he is not worth the trouble. Remember, it’s always best to define the relationship right from the start 😌.
You’re funny. If you like him,why don’t YOU do the proposing,since it’s that important to you? Know ye that actions speak louder than words..don’t be deceived by all the fancy talkers with their nkuraduro. Smh.
Girl, you actually proposed to him, and all he had to do was to “repeat after you!” Even that, he did not do. Even guys with POP mouth would have taken the bait. You said exactly what he was doing – “playing with you heart”.
I can see you are also into him, and compels you to keep waiting. Maybe you’ve given him too much for him to want to make any concessions, especially if he has slept with you. You might love him, but the hard truth is that the feeling might not be mutual. You can hang around him, but quit when someone else comes around.