I got married when I was only twenty-three. That was not the age I expected to be married. The events that led to the marriage were not the kind of events I dreamed would lead to marriage for me. None of it happened on my terms. Not even the man I married. I had just completed nursing school when one of my closest friends introduced me to her boyfriend’s friend. “He is a nice guy who happens to be single like you. Talk to him and see if he is someone you will like.” I was also single so I figured, what’s the harm in trying?
This guy and I started talking. The conversations were good. He made me laugh a lot. After a while, we decided to meet. Not only was it our first date, but it was a blind date as well. We had such a good time, that at the end of the date, I was tipsy. I woke up the next morning in his bed with no recollection of how I ended up there. My body didn’t feel right. I was tampered with by my date, I felt sore down there. A little light inside of me went out when it dawned on me that I unknowingly went on a date with a predator. I stopped talking to him and blocked him everywhere.
Three months later, I found out that I was pregnant. I didn’t have his number anymore so I asked my friend to tell him. We met and talked about what to do. “First of all, I am sorry for putting you into this position,” he apologized, “That’s not who I am. I don’t know what possessed me to behave in that manner.” He asked that I give him a chance to right his wrong. “I like you. I want us to keep the baby and get married. I promise I will spend the rest of our lives making up for the way this relationship started.” Had it not been for the pregnancy, I sure would have said no.
That was not how it was supposed to happen. I wanted to meet a good man, fall in love and know each other well enough to get married. But I ended up marrying a man I barely knew. Let’s not forget that he took advantage of me on our first date.
I had two children with him; a girl, then, a boy. Despite the kind of man their father is, I love my children very much. I thank God for them every day. They are my family. My parents are late and my only sister lives far away from me. So, I am blessed to have them. Their father on the other, was a demon I had to endure in the marriage.
I endured so much at his hands. When I was pregnant with our second child, I suffered neglect, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, and even physical abuse. He would beat me as if I were his child. I received my wake-up call in 2021. He beat me because of something so insignificant that I don’t remember it anymore. After he beat me, I talked back at him. He got angrier and brought his sisters to the house to come and beat me. And they did. That was my breaking point. “If I don’t leave this marriage, I will die and my children will be motherless,” I mused as I mentally packed my bags.
I sought a transfer and moved to a different region with my children. I didn’t even start the divorce process immediately. I hoped the distance would give him some clarity and compel him to change his ways. Nonetheless, he remained the same. Even rocks weather, but not my ex-husband. So I pushed to finalize the end of the marriage. Now, I am free from him.
I’ve been actively working as a full-time mum, full-time student because I’m pursuing my degree and a full-time nurse. It hasn’t been easy doing all this. So I made a decision to remain single till Jesus calls me home. I just wanted the time and space to take care of my children without any relationship drama getting in the way. It was the right decision for me at the time I made it.
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However, things have changed for me. I have had more time to think about my life. I am thirty-one. I am still very young with my whole life ahead of me. I foresee the road to old age as boring, lonely, and full of regrets. I don’t want such a life. I want love and companionship. I know I have been through so much already but I want to love and feel loved again. I want to raise my children in a home with two parents who love and respect each other.
I Discovered He Had Another Woman But I Couldn’t Leave Him
That’s why I’m here Silent Beads. It isn’t that I don’t meet men. I am an introvert who enjoys being indoors so the men I meet are mostly men from my workplace and the ones I co-tenant in the same house with. I am not comfortable starting a relationship with someone who is already close in my space in that way. That’s why I am hoping to meet someone through this space.
When it comes to the kind of man I want, I am not settling. All I ask for is a mature God-fearing man who is gainfully employed. Apart from my nursing career, I am industrious. It could be someone who already has kids, but it won’t be a problem if the person doesn’t have kids too. Wherever the person lives is fine with me as well; any part of Ghana or even abroad. I don’t want any unnecessary drama or games. Please, if you are in your mid-thirties to late thirties and you are ready for a serious relationship leading to marriage, reach out to me and let’s get to know each other in hopes of building something beautiful.
—Missy
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Believe that everything happens for a reason.
So far as there’s life there’s hope.
God will see u thru n grant your heart desire.
God be with you n the kids.
God will never pair her with another man because he hate divorce and remarry. As much as i sympathize with her, i won’t advise or wish she find another man. Scripturally speaking, it’s either she reconcile the that man or she remain single forever. But whoever is talking from world point of view without regards to God, that being is free to refute my above truth. So don’t mention God and the wish for divorce in the same content. Peace!
Believe that everything happens for a reason so far as there’s life there’s hope.
May God grant your heart desire. God be with u n the kids
YOU ARE A WONDERWOMAN!!!