When the first pregnancy happened, he told me he wasn’t ready for a baby. I understood him and got rid of it. He promised to pay back the money I paid at the hospital but he never paid. A year later the second pregnancy happened.
I was determined to keep it but he was determined to let it go. We talked extensively about it. I wanted to understand why but he didn’t offer any tangible reason apart from “I’ll be travelling abroad very soon. I don’t want to leave you here with a child.”
He held my hand and walked me to the facility. When I was done, he took me to his place and stayed with him for the next four days. I loved his caring hand during those moments of agony. I loved the way he provided for me. Everything showed he was the partner I needed so I was patient.
A few months later, he came to tell me his mother had found him a wife in their hometown and was forcing him to marry that woman. I laughed. I said, “It can’t happen. You’re not a child to allow your mom to dictate to you.” He tried convincing me to accept so he compensates me. I said no.
The Secret He Wasn’t Telling Me Was On His Phone
One day he gave his phone to a woman and asked me to talk to her. The woman sounded frail, like an old woman. She persuaded me. She said it was a tradition in their home to marry from the lady’s line. She was firm when she said, “If you force yourself to marry him, you’ll suffer for nothing. You can’t have a child or happiness. Don’t force your way where you’re not welcomed.”
I cried all night thinking about the four years I’d wasted with him. He was excessively sweet when he wanted me to agree so every question I asked him he answered. I asked about their hometown and where they lived. I asked how come he had to marry from only that line.
One morning I picked a car and headed to their hometown to look for his mother. I met a woman who was younger than the voice I heard on the phone. She was so excited to meet me when I mentioned I knew her son. I told her all the story. Where I’d been with him and even the abortions. “But now he says you want another wife for him,” I concluded.
She called her son right there and said, “Herh Joe, what woman am I giving you that I’m not aware of? Your girlfriend is here. What did she do?”
He was lying about everything. His mother told me, “My daughter, I’m a church elder. I can’t lie. I don’t know anything about it.”
Is There A Perfect One Out There For Everyone?
Currently, he’s mad at me for finding out the truth for myself. He doesn’t talk to me. He insults me whenever I make a move on him. He demeans me. I’m a very beautiful girl. I can start afresh but I’m scared of the effect of my past that’s why I’m holding on. I’m not going to force my way again. I’ll lay low but I swear this man can never marry as long as I’m alive. I’ve told him that. He thinks I’m joking but as far as I draw breath, both of us will forever remain single!
— Eduwa
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My sister let him go. If you have doubts about your ability to conceive go and see a doctor. It’s better for you to leave and and experience true love than to punish your self by staying with him. Karma will catch up with him. Some men are really wicked . The devil deos not even come close to their wickedness. Just pray for forgiveness of sins and ask for strength to move on. Love yourself more. There is someone out there whose going to love you for who you are and won’t hold your past against you.
Dear you deserve better.
Please let him go.
Hello Eduwa, vengeance is sweet when u serve it cold but you sit on the fence and it happens, it is sweeter. The power of the tongue. Let him go, hide in ur room and cry if u want to or talk to a counselor or a true friend, go out n have fun or focus on work like some of us do and
make money. U will be fine.he is a loser
Eduwa,leave him let him go and suffer for his sins.Karma will deal with him,he thinks he is smart having aborted for him twice.Yiur God will deal with him