Three years ago, we became friends and we are still friends. He calls me every day. When I say every day, I mean every single day since we became friends three years ago. He’s registered on every scroll of my call log as if he’s the only number I have on my phone.
A boy and a girl don’t usually stay friends for long so at some point feelings develop. We became attracted to each other and had sex quite a number of times. He didn’t propose before the sex so I was hoping one day he would right the wrongs and propose to me. I wasn’t going to stretch him. All I wanted was for him to say that he loves me and I would look back into his eyes and say, “I love you too.” That never happened.
For a very long time, we kept undressing and dressing up but the proposal never came so I decided to address the issue.
“Young man, what are we doing with our lives? What’s in for both of us, this thing that we are doing?”
His answer was, “Honestly, I don’t know why this is happening. I like you as a friend and don’t want to lose your friendship.”
He called me a friend after everything that had happened but I still didn’t turn off the button of hope. Hearts change. Friendship grows into love. This is life. Everything changes.
For three years and counting, nothing has changed. Sometimes I become so angry I decide not to visit him again but I don’t know what happens. It looks like some magical wind blows me to his house. By the time I realised, I would be in his house though I’d sworn not to be there.
He is an amazing person and I have never met such a generous person in my life. Hardly will he say ‘No’ if I need any help from him and in fact, he contributed about 70% to the purchase of the phone I’m currently using. His kindness and generosity is the reason I can’t let him go, maybe.
One day we talked about this situationship we find ourselves in and he told me, “I know I’m the reason you don’t give any man a chance in your life but it’s hard.”
He knows all that but why is he not proposing to me?
He says he’s single. I sometimes tell him I’m going on a date with a new guy just to see his reaction but all he will say is, “Let me choose a dress for you when you’re going, okay?”
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I really like this guy and I’ve been praying to God to make him mine or better still take him away from me if he’s not meant for me because a girl can’t continue living life like this. I’m afraid I might not be able to love any other man if he doesn’t choose me.
Please what can I do to help my situation? do I do?
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Madam, you know exactly what is happening but you have decided to overlook it. If after three years of sleeping with you he doesn’t know what he wants then you better advice yourself. Every man and I repeat, every man knows what they want. He is just using you to satisfy his sexual desires. When he gets ready for marriage, he’ll send you an invitation card and you’ll say men are evil but you’re the one fuelling this evil. If you truly want God to answer your prayer then stop having sex with him. Give your life to Christ and start life anew before your mental health declines
Tell her Dorcas. Obaa u better open uo to other guys and try ur luck some where else. There are alot of generous guys out there too. Be open minded, spread ur net wide and u will catch some of the fishes in the sea.
He doesn’t love you.