Eagan was one of my cousin’s numerous friends in the estate we lived in. All the guys in my cousin’s clique were from rich homes so I considered them out of my league. Unlike them, I didn’t come from money. I was just a poor girl living with my well-to-do aunt and my two cousins. I never felt like I belonged in their world. So I didn’t dare long after any of the rich boys around although they were pretty to look at.

Around that time I had completed secondary school and was awaiting my results. My aunt was not the kind to let me go out when I had nothing important to do outside, so I was mostly at home. It didn’t bother me much. Rather, it gave me the kind of invisibility I desired to enjoy my solitude. And it was a peaceful experience until Eagan came knocking on our door one afternoon. He was looking for my cousin. At the time my cousin had traveled with his mum to Accra and they would be gone for two weeks.

I opened my mouth to give Eagan this information but all I could say was, “He… he… he… um… he…” I am not a stammerer but I started stuttering. He was just so handsome that I lost my nerves. Thankfully, he noticed my discomfort and started to make small talk. “I haven’t seen you here before. Are you new?” He asked. I shook my head, “No, I have been around for a while. I just don’t go anywhere.” He smiled, and I almost swooned.

The entire time he was talking to me my heart was pounding really hard against the bars of my rib cage. “Let me take you for a walk later then. That way you can see the neighborhood,” he offered. I nodded and managed an almost inaudible “Okay, that will be fine.” That was the beginning of us.

For the entire two weeks that my aunt was away, I went for walks with Eagan every evening. We talked, laughed, and got to know each other deeply. I didn’t notice it when I fell madly in love with him but I was happy to feel that way about him. The day before my aunt returned from Accra, we went for our final evening walk. On our way back he held me when we got to a dark deserted road and kissed me. It was everything enchanting. I kept replaying the kiss in my mind, and every time I did, I smiled.

When they returned from Accra, my cousin got a hint of my closeness to his friend. You know how boys act when their friends show interest in their sisters. He became very angry. He went on to fight with Eagan. After that, he warned me, “I don’t want to see you anywhere near that boy, do you hear me?” Everything he said fell on deaf ears. His anger was not strong enough to come between me and Eagan. We always found ways to see each other.

There were times I would go and visit the guy when he was the only one at home. My cousin would follow me there and drag me back home. This always had us arguing and bickering. It didn’t take long for my aunt to get wind of what was happening. I thought she would side with her son and try to keep me away from my boyfriend but she surprised me. “So what if she is dating your friend? Is she a child? Leave them alone.” This is what my aunt said.

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My cousin wasn’t happy about her mother’s reaction but he knew she was right. I was eighteen, and Eagan was in his first year at the university. We were two consenting adults who had chosen to be together. He had no choice but to stop harassing us. And our love sailed smoothly without his opposition. I would visit Eagan when his parents weren’t at home and we would watch movies and kiss. Whenever he hugged me and left the smell of his cologne on my clothes, I would sniff them all night long.

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What we felt for each other was very intense but we didn’t go all the way until he left for school in Kumasi. I convinced my aunt to allow me to spend the rest of my holidays with my folks in Kumasi. This gave me the opportunity to spend some time with him. He made me happy just I also made him happy. We were together for almost two years and I lost my virginity to him during that time.

Everything was good between us until my aunt passed away and we had to relocate. She was my sole benefactor so her death greatly affected me. When we moved, Eagan and I tried to make it work by long distance but it was hard. My life was no longer the same. I was dealing with a lot of changes and uncertainties about the future. So we drifted apart slowly until our relationship gradually came to an end. I guess some things are just not to be. I am just happy that it was good while it lasted. Wherever he is, I hope he is happy.

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—Shauna

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