Felix is the man I was certain I would spend the rest of my life with. I was very young when we were together but I loved him very deeply. This man was my joy and my reason to wake up every morning. He was basically everything to me. And I believed he loved me too. I was very young so maybe I confused something else for love. With his words, he would say, “I love you,” but his actions made me feel anything but love. When I tried to talk to him, he would turn things around and make it look like I was the problem and he was perfect. I endured him for a while but somewhere in 2021, I decided that I was done with the relationship.
I still loved him when I walked away so I was completely heartbroken. I thought about all the pain he inflicted on my heart when we were together, and I told myself, “I won’t fall in love again. The next man who comes into my life will pay for Felix’s sins. I will string his heart to my fingers, play with his emotions and dance to the tune of his cries. Going forward, I will be absolutely wicked to men.” I said this when I was in pain but I meant it. I implemented it when Aki came into my life. He is this sweet guy who looked like he wouldn’t hurt a fly, let alone a human heart. But that was not my concern.
He professed his love for me and I accepted him although I had no intention of loving him back. I pretended to love him so he let his guard down and trusted me. Shortly after I started dating him I met Ola. He too is a gentle soul. I had him wrapped around my fingers in no time. He also asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. I am not someone who would usually date two men but I dated Aki and Ola simultaneously. They didn’t know about each other but they both had their suspicions. Again, that was not my concern. Even if both of them caught me red-handed with another man, I wouldn’t care. All I cared about was hurting them and I did. They loved me very much so every little thing I did cut them deep.
I was having fun being the queen of hearts until January this year. My world tilted and my ice-cold crown rolled off my head when August strutted into my life as if he had the right to. It was infuriating, the way he got my hardened heart turning soft toward him. He didn’t do anything special that Aki and Ola didn’t do for me. There was just this thing about him that made me want to be a better person. The moment we started talking, I was ready to be his. I was ready to let go of all the men I didn’t love so that I could give him my all and best. I fell in love with him before he even asked me to be his girlfriend. And this time when I said yes, it wasn’t a game.
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I started trying to break up with Aki and Ola so I could focus on August, however, these men loved me so much that they refused to go down without a fight. I had no idea that breakups could be so difficult until it came to them. I would break up with Aki and he would beg me, “Babe, what did I do wrong? I love you and I can’t lose you. Whatever the problem is, we can work it out.” Then I would break up with Ola and he would tell me, “I can’t believe you are giving up on us after everything we’ve been through.” While all this was happening, August was asking me questions like, “When did your last relationship end?” “When was the last time you were with someone intimately?” I didn’t want him to know the truth and judge me, so I lied to him.
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He believed everything I told him without asking further questions. So I thought I was in the clear. Our relationship progressed peacefully as I was still trying to do away with Aki and Ola. Just a few days ago, August asked me, “Don’t you get tired of all the lies? How do you even manage to keep it all up?” I was shocked, “What are you talking about? Where is that even coming from?” He looked at me and calmly said, “You don’t have to continue the act, I know everything. I know about your two boyfriends. I know the last time you were intimate with each of them. You lied about all of it but I know everything.” I felt creeped out and exposed in an unpleasant way. The only thing I could say was, “How?”
He told me he cloned my WhatsApp one week after we met. So all this while we were getting to know each other, he was only asking questions to test my honesty. I cried and apologized for lying to him, but he wouldn’t hear any of it. He is mad at me. He said my lies have ruined all his plans for me. I feel so sad that he went behind my back to do this. I believed he was another shot at love for me but now that this has happened, I don’t think he will get over it. Why am I so unlucky when it comes to love? What do I do to win him back? And also, was he right to clone my Whatsapp?
–Bose
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Oh! My goodness! It serves you right! August has no right to clone your phone but you were cheating on him, does he deserve a cheating girlfriend? Does Aki and Ola have to pay for Felix sins? August was also hurt to find out that you’re a cheat. You brought the latest pain on yourself. Deal with it.
Bitterness has no ideal place in human relationships. He was wrong to clone your WhatsApp. There is nothing to salvage from your relationship with August. The foundation is broken- that is the trust factor is non-existent. Else you will live the rest of your life proving your worth in this relationship. No need @ all.
Kindly understand the Grateful nature of forgiveness. Please forgive Felix and also forgive yourself and move on. Better luck next time., my dearest.
Somebody hurt your feelings and you made it a point to punish others for it. So please learn from this going forward. This is what I called instant justice. For cloning your WhatsApp, he invaded your privacy, it wasn’t the best but he got to know your true self.
After reading the post I’ll advice the lady
1) From her first relationship how it ended she was supposed to be the girl God created be herself and not planing to hate men.
That decision lead her to her second real love whom also clone her whatsapp for the truth.
If she had dated one man with honesty at a time she could have had the real love of her life.
2) From the first guy who left her is true probably she was not honest what’s why he complained always and left her.
3) August guy is a sigma male and those man want honesty as air in their relationship. So he was right to clone her whatsapp even though is a violation of privacy.
But if she had told the august guy yes am in a relationship and am try to get out so we can have something for us 💯 the august will be given her space and time to deal with these guys and come to her at her own pace but since is a full of lies from probably infancy she Lie again. And that go her into this.
She will be a nice girl but her attitude of lies wont get her anywhere.
Honesty, integrity is the key of successful life.
By Cyber.